Basically split with ex husband in 2009. Appointed a solicitor, I moved out and he wanted to keep the house. Fine. We agreed a settlement which was massively in his favour which with various excuses he went back on, losing his job. He had no solicitor, I did. Then he stopped responding to the solicitor at all. Eventually got my divorce in July 2012. The court awarded the cost of the divorce to him by CCJ. Yep you guessed it no financial settlement which no one told me was essential although I had as above tried to sort it. He then requested via my mum the house be sold which i agreed. i changed aolicitor as the one we used before was difficult to get him to do anything or speak to. ten i recieve a solicitors letter from my ex. He's now suddenly £20,000 in debt and currently in Spain on holiday And remarrying and now wants my pension most of the house equity etc which equates to around £19,000. My solicitor advised we find another solicitor who deals with family law who I'm seeing on Tuesday. He also says I left the joint account £1000 in debt, it was but he also removed my name from that account without my signature or anything. He says he spent £5000 on home improvements, I was £6000 in debt wham I left as I redecorated and put in a new kitchen and bathroom and boarded the loft out. I plucked up courage to look through the window as he no longer lives there and it looks like a squatters lived there in all honesty. It's filthy. I don't have kids with him but have met and had two children with my lovely dp. If this gets nasty which it seems it will, will a court look favourably on fairness in all this? I also have a second mortgage now and am paying all of the old house mortgage too as he kept defaulting on it and I'm paying his £1000 arrears. He's told his solicitor I've only being it a month, I can prove its seen months I've been paying it and have done before while he took various women on foreign holidays. This was plastered all over Facebook. He is twenty years older than me and I very EA which I didn't realise at the time and my first solicitor told me EA didn't exist and couldn't be put on my divorce. I am quite ill with anxiety and have suffered at his hands for years but i still want things to be fair. That's all I ask.
Please someone with experience tell me that it turns out ok.
Thank you so much for reading and I'm sorry if its jumbled, my head is a shed an I'm shaking.
Also apologise there's no paragraphs.