divorce, domestic violence and talking to the police

[freemanbatch]

I want to divorce my husband on the grounds of domestic violence and I also want to speak to the police about what's happened and let them decide if they need to do anything and then children's services will have all the information to decide on what contact is safe for my kids.

We have no assets, the house just about covers the mortgage, and there are other debts, I am unemployed due to not being allowed to work during the marriage and not having found a job since he left.

So the question is if I speak to the police am I going to be left with all the debt and lose my home? would I be better trying to sort the divorce first so he'd taken his share of the debts?

I can't go on in this limbo any more I need to do something but I'm looking for a bit of advice about the order in which to do things.

Sorry this probably doesn't make much sense.

Just wanted to answer you on this as I have been through similar, though I had no DCs involved.

You will need to lodge police reports at some stage and SS will swiftly follow im sure in reference to your DCs.... The polce were brilliant for me and it was not as awful as you may imagine....

Having read your OP, think you need to get the initial advice of a good solicitor, who will then be able to provide the order of tasks you should look at completing.

You have already begun the process by coming to your decision, stay strong and remember there is ome wonderful and wise advice on here- you will get thru this and your kids will benefit longterm.

Wishing you all my very best.....

report to police a s ap as any arangements for the children will be abased on what you report and any investigation carried out.

You will only get legal aid for the divorce if you can evidence of domestic violence from the police so contact the police first. Whatever the reason for the breakdown of the marriage, this has no bearing on the finances.

Thanks guys,

I'm determined to get this sorted and get on with my life so thanks for all the advice.