When we separated a friend advised me to make a record of it somewhere so that we could divorce after 2 years, she told me that she had been able to use HMRC tax credits, so I rang and told them that we were separated, I told them at that point that H was still living with me and that we had no date at that time for him to move out. THEY TOLD ME that I had to claim as a single person because I had told them I was separated. I asked them if they were sue about that as we were still living together and therefore NOTHING had changed apart from that our relationship had ended. THEY insisted that I could no longer have a joint claim because I had told them we were separated.
AT THAT POINT they asked me whether the money would go into a joint account, which I said it would, and would that be a problem, as that was where all the bills came out of. THEY said that was fine as long as I knew that it was ME taking the risk that H could access the money. AT NO POINT did they say that I should change that to a sole account.
As I said, HMRC seem to make things up as they go along. They told me things that were obviously not right? how I am supposed to know what is right or not if they dont?
Nobody ever told me it was important to separate our finances. H moved out in June last year and we both struggled to work, look after the kids, keep things normal, I was ill and he had a major op last year, had we known that changing banks accounts, bills etc. were a priority over trying to move on with our lives, we might have done something about it.
I fully understand that HMRC needs to investigate these things, but I feel completely out of control here, I have done nothing wrong, and in fact I thought that we were doing MORE than we could have - i.e. saving taxpayers money on HB that I would have been entitled to had I moved into rented.
My Accountant told me that they could help, when I broke down in tears at a meeting there at the end of last year, they deal with HMRC on a daily basis, so I trusted them to do a better job than I could, especially given that I was struggling to even work at that time.
I have been a taxpayer for 25 years, I might as well give up work altogether, because if I have to pay back everything that TC have paid us in the last two years, I can certainly wipe out a year of earnings after tax, if not more. They can take a running jump!