I separated from my partner over a year ago. My daughter was 2 months old at the time. At first he would see my daughter often (once or twice a week). When I moved on and met someone new, at first I kept it quiet and was weary about allowing my new partner into her life until I knew he would be a long term partner. I told my ex partner about my new relationship when my daughter was around 6 months old. His visits (I would usually take my daughter to see him or meet closer to where he lived) became extremely infrequent, 2 months had past between one visit and another at one point, there were always excuses football, money ect. After hearing more of the same and seeing how wonderful my new partner had taken to my daughter I came to the conclusion that my ex is simply not capable realistically of being a decent father for her.
It has now been 9 months almost and around once a month I will receive a message just saying "Hello" or something from him. However his mother has threatened me with court numerous times since our split. Her threats of arguing for full custody had kept me petrified. I have over this time developed a little more self confidence in my mothering I eventually told her not to contact me again unless through the courts. I feel neither my ex nor his mother should have contact. Reasons for example; they would never follow her routine with bed, the house they live in also doubles as a tattoo parlour for my ex's step father and the amount of times they rescheduled.
Anyway I would be very grateful if anyone could give me some legal advice on the following:
Taking into account numerous times of cancellations, should they take me to court what access would he get (I would rather no access on the grounds of past experiences with said cancellations and threats).
My partner has been with me for over a year now and is worried about his rights concerning my daughter should anything dreadful happen to me. Can parental responsibility be sought with the biological fathers? knowledge but not consent?
Also on a personal level, since my daughter was so young when I met my partner, we live together; he and his family have all taken to her as if he is his own. Is this healthy for her mental well-being?
My ex is on the birth certificate, we were never married, only together in fact for just under a year.
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Seperated Father wanting access
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Amilia15 · 12/03/2013 15:50
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