Approx 18 months into ongoing contact issues with abusive Ex (he has cautions for assault against DD) Horrible, messy saga with a manipulative, controlling man.
My solicitor has been brilliant and so far, has warded off all his attempts to speed up process of increasing contact without evidence of change Update hearing today - he has started some 'therapeutic' work with the NSPCC and as far as I knew, it was a simple formality for the judge to hear that he had attended the course so far, was engaging etc.
I emailed my solicitor last night to confirm that she didn't need me to attend court and she replied at 6pm to say that no it was fine.
10am I had a phone call from her colleague, who I've never met, who didn't have a real clue about the case and who said that Ex was today asking for an albeit small but very specific increase to contact. I panicked, said no way and tried to explain the reasons why (kids bedtimes etc although more complex than that) My own solicitor was in another court. Colleague was on a 'bad' line and just wasn't clued in to the issues.
She rang back 2 hours later to say that judge had granted the extra contact. And that there is ANOTHER hearing next week to discuss the extra contact that I have suggested over Easter.
Should I have been able to ask for the whole thing to be adjourned today? I just feel pretty shocked as I was not expecting there to be any movement on contact due to what I'd been told by my own solicitor. and I can't afford to keep paying for all these hearings. Feeling a bit let down but perhaps it's unusual in that she's dealt with my case and done all of the hearings herself so far?