My ex disappeared, following a brief relationship, when I was 14 weeks pregnant, I emailed him and asked him if he wanted to be involved in the pregnancy, come to scans, have in input into names etc but he wasn't interested. When baby was born I informed him and regularly updated him, he showed no interest at all in knowing our child.
When baby was 9 months old he became involved but was not allowed unsupervised contact due to his past behaviour, he was happy to go along with this. Within weeks he started losing his temper and control of his emotions with our child and then with me so I said I was no longer willing to supervise contact and he would have to organise a contact centre. I didn't hear from him for weeks so I thought he had disappeared again and I put out feelers to relocate to where my family and friends are. I then received a letter from his solicitor, he is taking me to court seeking unsupervised contact, claiming there is no reason for supervised contact and accusing me of causing problems with contact and then stopping it on a whim.
I have documentary evidence of the lengths I have gone to in promoting contact even when he wasn't interested, evidence of his steady refusal to see any problems with his anger instead blaming me for his outbursts.
I can't talk to him directly about the issues regarding contact as he becomes aggressive and threatening, one of the reasons why I eventually refused to supervise contact. My solicitor has caught him out lying in the court application three times.
The hearing is at the beginning of December but as I said before, when I thought he had disappeared from the scene again I started to consider moving to where my support network is and a house has just become available.
I don't want to scupper contact, I never, ever, have. I have always promoted and gone to great lengths to facilitate contact for my child's sake. As my solicitor has told me, there is a mound of written evidence showing I have gone well above and beyond what I could have done. I know the distance to where I want to move to, 250 miles, is a lot and will affect contact but I will be requesting it to be in a contact centre to begin with anyway and there is SKYPE inbetween contact sessions. Not ideal I know, but apart from my ex there is nothing keeping me here and I am unemployed whereas if I move I can find work. Our child is now 20 months. What are the chances of the judge allowing me to move?