We have been asked to foster a friends children while she receives cancer treatment, it will be her final chemo round. The children are a year younger than ours and have had contact with our family since birth and frequently playdate when they aren't spending the odd week with us. We see them more in a month than their father has in their lifetime.
She wants us to foster, 'just in case the worst happens', we have had them before when she had treatment but not for longer than a fortnight.
So I have 3 concerns-
- If something were to happen to her would that mean social services could take the children away and place them with their biological father who is totally unwilling to take them even for a day, as he is their next of kin. Regardless of her wishes. (They were estranged before the birth) She has no living relatives who could take them in and relies on friends when she has treatment.
- I've been reading about special guardianship but I am confused.
Would Special guardianship mean if we were awarded it we could override any decisions made for the children by their birth father in the event of the death of their mother? nothing is mentioned in any document I have found, it all says about shared parental responsibility but doesn't say what happens when the other parent is absent 99% of the time.
- can her will/wishes for us to have the children be contested after her death by their birth father if we have no formal arrangement prior to her death?