Have been seperated since oct 2011. Hunted around for solicitors and finally picked nice family law specialist in April 2012. Have only met her in person once, have spoken to her assistant several times. Solicitor tends to write as opposed to meeting face to face. Solicitor advised meadiation but stbxh doesn't feel it's nessesary as we are mostly amicable. We have 2 yr old dd together. Marriage broke down due to his adultery.
Stbxh and I own (mortgaged) which we have agreed to let him remain in for the next 18 months and then house will be put on the market. The split of the profits is agreed, and we have both signed a document (which we both wrote) agreeing to this. There are no savings or pensions to split, no wills either, just debt which is mostly in my name (stbxh unable to get credit hence thinking it was forever, i took out the credit). We are paying them jointly at the mo as its all tied up in a joint debt management plan. But I am ready to take all my named debt into a new debt management plan, so in theory that's the debts sorted.
Access to dd is where stbxh will struggle. He has so far not maintained a routine of contact. He has either opted to go out with the lads, work or put ow first. We have agreed in principle an arrangement that will work for dd and him. I'm just waiting for him to put it into practise.
I'm still waiting on draft divorce papers from solicitor. There was an error on the last lot which I asked to be amended but I have not heard back from my last email. I have emailed again asking for an update.
Am I doing things wrong? Am I expecting too much of my solicitor? I'm getting grief from stbxh as he thinks it should be moving faster. Is it likely a judge will be satisfied with what we have done?
Apologies for my grammatically poor, spelt wrong rambling post (my night shifts are catching up on me)