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Looking to the future. Need reassurance

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2wwmadness · 30/08/2012 12:35

Im going rough a divorce. Stbxh walked out when I was 8 months of and has never lived with ds. He has not had him for more than 2 hours a week and hasn't seen him for the past month. Ds is 16 weeks.
I am moving back to my home town, 3 hours away. Stbxh has no problem in this and wants to see ds for 3 hours once a month in a contact centre (he won't come to my house (confused)
It is stated on the divorce papers that he has a drink issues. I have bank statements, videos on my phone text messages that back this up.
My fear is can he just decide he wants over night contact, say in a years time, and get it? My son is so little and it's not like he lives round the corner! Ds will see him 12 times a year! And I have genuine concerns with ex behaviour. Also I know nothing about his life! He won't speak to me. I don't even know his new address (or the woman he is living with!) what shoulda be doing?

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Collaborate · 30/08/2012 12:49

He must agree contact with you or get a court order. He can't just decide to do what he wants.

Your son is entitled to a reltionship with his father. It's a shame that father doesn't realise that. The contact he is having at the moment is woefully inadequate.

2wwmadness · 30/08/2012 12:55

Ok I agree. He isn't interested and I'm trying to make him see that he needs to create a bond and my trust before I hand over d's to him in the future, I'm not sure he sees that and I think in a few years time I'm gunna have issues.

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