I need urgent advice please. Family Law

[MsBakingCakes]

Hi here again

Quick story short. DD has had a mild medical condition which is been treated although it has been going on for a while now. ExP is having DD in a few days time and last night sent an email requesting all information about when I have been to the doctors with DD, who we saw, condition diagnosed by doctor, treatment and for how long. I am guessing that he will be taking her to the doctors as this condition started after she came back from being with him over a month ago.

He has PR and has the right to take part in desicion about medical treatment for DD. I have been at my surgery to request this information as I can't remember all the dates that I have gone to see a doctor with DD and they have told me that they are not sure they can provide this information for ExP because of confidential information. I think that they are wrong but I am not sure so I need some advice.

ExP wants all this information before DD goes with him so I don't have a lot of time to provide it. Any advice welcome.

Thanks in advance

I think that you need for your daughter's sake to ensure that he is aware of the precise nature of the condition and the treatment he will be needed to admister whilst she is with him.

You're correct that he is entitled to ask for this information from the doctor in the same way that you are, but it's not relevant when you went to the doctors. You should be working together on this, and not having him take her to the doctors unless there is a valid medical reason.

I suggest you tell him what you've been told (put it in an email) and then say that if he wants confirmation from the doctor he can exercise his Parental Responsibility and ask the surgery for it. He could also pay £50 and get a copy of her medical records.

You shouldn't be running round after him.

Any parent with PR is entitled to the medical history of their child. They can request from the surgery themselves and the surgery is obligated to provide the information unless there is a court order. It should not cost any money to do so.

I can understand him wanting to know what the doctors have said, info on treatment, etc - I don't understand why he wants to know when she has been to see who though.

I agree with collaborate. In your shoes I would tell him he is welcome to contact the GP's surgery or PALS (patient advice and liaison service) who will have all of this info on file if he wants to request it as her parent.

Do you get on ok with him? Is there some sort of power struggle going on?

The confidentiality aspect only covers anything that might inadvertently reveal details about you that you might not want him to know, such as an address (but I'm guessing he already knows that!). Doctors, and schools, are often under informed about what they have to provide for those with PR. He should be able to access the same info as you legally.

he can request all the information from the GP - or if he takes her for an appt they will have everything there and can tell him.

the main thing you need to tell him is what the condition is and any treatment he needs to administer. who she saw when why - this is something my ex does too - bu really so long as he has pertinent info it is not relevant if she saw dr x on wednesday or dr y on thursday at 2 pm...

Thank you everyone. The relationship with him isn't very good and he can be very difficult. Up until now I have told him when we have been at the doctors and what the doctors told us but he likes to control everything. I am not sure if he would be happy if I don't provide all the information he is requesting and it may give him another reason to threaten me to go to court as he always do when he can't control things

Thanks again for all the advice