help please i really need advise pr!!

[mummylolly]

hi i dont no were to turn or who to ask.
my x kicked me and a 3 week old baby out into the streets she will b 5 next week he has never contact me or her since that day.
no email, no letter no court order nothin it is weird.
i have hurd nothing form his family either.
she has my name so i aint worried about that, i want his pr taken away but dont no were i stand.
i dont no if i start this as well will he want access would a court give it him as he aint seen her for 5 years.
i dont no what to do can any one help me please

I'm sure someone with legal knowledge will come along but I do know this much..

A court will almost always grant contact to a parent who has been absent but now wants contact. It will be a gradual process to introduce the previously absent parent into the child's life. It will start with supervised contact and move on to unsupervised etc.

It is only in very exceptional circumstances that a court will
not order some contact. If contact with that personal puts the child at risk for example. A child has a right to have a relationship with both parents.

Do you have a reason you don't wish for your child to have a relationship with him in the future? Him leaving you and your relationship breaking down shouldn't be a factor in this. Unless he is a risk to your child then it is best for the child.

Similarly, courts will not usually "take away" PR. Him having parental responsibility doesn't affect your parental responsibility. Is this an attempt to stop him being able to see your child should he choose to in the future?

Also- as he just upped and left you with a tiny baby and you say you hvent heard from him- I hope you've contacted the CSA and he is paying for his child! You shouldn't have to struggle financially because he decided he didn't want the responsibility of a child! Contact and maintenance payments are not considered linked, so chasing him for maintenance may encourage him to think about seeing his child but won't affect a courts decision on what contact he is awarded, if that makes sense.

Is his name on the brith certificate ?

If he's on the birth certificate that's the end of the story. He'll have PR and you won't get it taken from him. Let things lie as they are.

hi slowcooker: he was violent towards me and i have medical records i was only 18 at the time. he also was a drug user heavily. i did not go to csa because i did not want him to have any reason to contact me or my daughter. he got drunk and he was on cocaine one night and emailed which i still have threating that he would come and take the baby while i was sleeping. nothin came off it.
he is on the birth certificate.

I can understand your worries due to him being violent toward you and being a drug user. But that was 5 years ago. He may turn up one day and be clean and quite capable of having. Long slating relationship with your child. But he might never get in touch.

As collaborate says, a court will not take away his PR, just don't do anything right now.

I'd be on the phone to CSA though, your dd deserves the money he should be paying for her. X

i found out a couple off months ago he is in jail does that make a difference

Yes. You'll get no maintenance.

i am not bothered about maintenance just about him havin access but there aint nothin i can do

Being in jail doesn't lose you your PR OP. Just let sleeping dogs lie as they say. X