COURT ORDER IN PLACE FOR YRS - BUT HOW DO I PREVENT HIM TAKING ME BACK TO COURT YET AGAIN! I CAN APPLY TO COURT FOR SOMETHIN BUT CANT THINK WHAT ITS CALLED.

[zara206y]

My x (see other thread under lone parents) has just gone into battle with me yet again. I give him what he wants and free extra time phone calls etc with son but this this time was over holiday...was going to keep son till very last minute before my holiday. He got pissed off and said he will take me back to court again. What is it called where i can apply to the courts to get a prevention on my current order, to stop him running back to court for every little tit for tat shit he doesnt agree with? Honestly its like dealing with a spoilt child.

Well I got a section 91 (14) to stop repeated trips to court

Olympia did you do it yourself or through a solicitor? I am at my witts end, like i say for every little upset he threatens me all the time and i am fearful cause he bullies me into giving him what he wants. I need to stop him.

No I had a solicitor, but it was my cafcass officer who pushed the judge for it. It wasn't easy. He was told he had to have court permission to re apply and it lasted 6 years.

He got zero contact too.

OH right ok. Mine has every other weekend and shared holidays (almost). Wish he had zero contact too. I have just emailed my solicitor, but as i am a single mother with no savings i am not sure i can afford it at the moment, so may just have to hope that he doesnt take me back. Thanks tho

Why would you wish your son never saw his dad - not really child focused is it?

3xcookedchips...sorry but he abducted my son when he was 4 year old, took out a prohibitted steps order preventin me from seeing a son that i spent every day with from birth! I ended up getting full custody after not seeing my son for 6wks...his reason was he wanted to get me back for leaving him!!!! I am very child focussed actually....after he abducted my son and took him 100 miles away i agreed for him to still see his son every other wkend and at holidays for wks at a time. He still has this right. I would never stop my son from seeing his father as its is not my place to take that right away from him, i have never stopped him! I have had 6 years of abussive messages, court threats, fear of non return etc the list goes on. He blackmailes my son at every given oportunity, and uses him as a weapon....so sorry to be a bit angry at your comments which i find rather upsetting...but who is not really child focused?

Well said, Zara. Hope you manage to get an order or ex starts behaving reasonably.

3xcookedchips - it's fine to ask a question if you don't understand a situation but there's no need to be rude or immediately assume someone is doing something wrong. I hate this assumption that mothers who have residence are evil.

Its hardly rude to question a specific statement that has nothing to do with the original question when the full facts have not been disclosed.

However, my comment still stands - to wish your son never sees his father again is not thinking of the long term well being of your son...again, because we dont have the full facts - sorry this upsets.

It is extremely rude to jump in with an assumption that the poster is a bad parent.

Some people, sadly, ARE bad parents. It is not always in the child's best interests to see a parent who is deeply self-centred and who does not look after the child properly, for instance. Maybe that might apply here - to the poster's ex.

I interviewed a victim of domestic violence recently. Her case is all on record, got court orders against the perpetrator. But her solicitor told her not to mention domestic violence in the family courts because it prejudices them against the woman.

Oh god what have i started here. Listen i wont go into too much detail as you never know who is reading. I left him after i didnt feel loved, i warned him for months i was not happy, nothing changed. I moved away to live at my only option, he still saw son every other wkend etc and still does. He had him for one wk at the end of summer hols and never returned him. Stating that he was taking me to court. He put son in a new school, and told him (then aged 4) that he now lived with daddy. When i did get to see my son he said in the space of a day, 19 times that he lived with his daddy. I had to fight my x to get son back. He had never got up in the night to our son, never come home from wk if he was ill or i, nothing. He told the courts when he realised that he was loosing the case just before it was closed ..held his hand up and said that i was abusing son. I was stunned. Eventually judge,caffcass etc saw that this was NOT the case and i was awarded full custody. It was ME who said that despite the allegations i did not want my son to NOT see his father. Consent was granted so he has access. Son lives with me. Judge told x, "you have just shot yourself in the foot, you clearly have nothing else better to do, i suggest you get over the fact your wife left you". I was told to go collect son and take him home. During the trial, i saw my son once, once in 6 wks. I never raised my voice at x, but asked the following New Year day when he returned him back to me 4 hrs late...why did he say what he did in court, he said "i know i lied but i had to get you back for leaving me". To this day it is the worse part of my life. I am still very anxious every time he takes him. It makes me cry talking about it still 6 yrs on. The courts could see that i was a normal good mother, i dont drink, never dont drugs, i work and i have a clean dry house. They could also see that he was just a man scorned and very bitter who used our son as a weapon. I am still very polite to him and have recently been very reasonable regarding his a death in his family, letting him talk extra to son and see him. And why? to have it thrown back at me every time. The courts agreed with me when i said that he had been a good and loving father when we were married, so they also agreed that it was in sons interest to continue seeing dad. It was that he had made a silly mistake but he was bitter that i left. I hate him for that silly mistake, he still is bitter. Still trys to upset me at every chance he gets. He knows how the words "i will take you back to court" makes me feel sick and falls to my knees. He has control over my life practically and i left him 6 yrs ago. He wont be nice. So its very wrong to judge others and be disrespectful without knowing the case in depth. I never have commented in such a negative way to upset any or either party on here and its sad that some do take sides so quickly. There are so many situations on here, i get comfort from, and advice. So please take a step back before making any comments and just think that somewhere along the line someone was hurt for some reason. I am trying to forgive him taking son as he was hurt, but i will never forget.Thank you for those that have shown support.