Ive posted in LP, but it's been suggested that I post here, so here's a lengthy summary!
I have a fixed fee one hour appointment with a solicitor tomorrow, and I'm trying to get my thoughts in order so that I can make best use of the time, rather than waffle about things that are outside the scope of legal advice.
My objective from the appointment is to establish what, if any, legal options I have to address my concerns regarding ex trying to exclude me from my DDs life - I am making a list of "examples" to show the kind of things I mean.
One question that I'm considering asking is if a 'right of first refusal' arrangement could legally be put in place for overnight care of DD, particularly when ex is out of the country. There has previously been a situation (which I found out about afterwards) when his then girlfriend picked DD up from school and cared for her overnight on the usual transfer day (transfer is through school), because ex wasn't returning to the UK until the next day. the problem is, because I didn't know that ex wasn't around, and thought that DD was safely in his care, I took a last minute trip to visit a friend, and had there been an emergency that night which required decisions by someone with PR, neither of us would have been easily available to be with DD!
Ex also relies on his parents to provide childcare during the holidays while he is working; but they live hundred+ miles away and DD is spending more and more of her time when she's not with me with them at their home at weekends and during holidays - away from her evolving social life and familiar hang-outs. It's beginning to impede on school activities, too.
So, my question - is it possible to have a right of first refusal arrangement legally enforceable, or can it only be by trust/agreement?