I have a friend who is recently divorced. Her ex is being very prescriptive about when and how he will see the children and has dictated the times he will see them, with no regard to what is convenient to her. He expects my friend to drop the children off at his house on the evening visit, which is a 40 minute round trip for her. His argument is that he has to rush home from work so if she drops them off he gets to see them for longer. She does not want to drop them off, partly because of the drive, partly because it's inconvenient and partly because she doesn't want to have to go to his house with his new girlfriend etc. She is willing for him to see them more often (he sees them for 24 hours every three weeks at the weekend and one evening a week at his request, which isn't very much) - but he has been the one dictating the times he will see them, which are always to his convenience and with no regard to my friend or the children. Is it being unreasonable of him to expect her to drop them off at his house, or should she do it anyway?
The other issue is that he keeps sending her emails and texts - almost daily - with questions and criticisms about her and her parenting. E.g. telling her she's not making any effort to let him see the children, questioning the fact she's not working at the moment, going on about her being on benefits/children having free meals etc, criticising choices she's made as a parent, accusing her of taking all his money (when it was an equal split) - he doesn't seem to see the money he pays for the children as for the children - he seems to think he shouldn't have to pay anything for them - he sees it as going to her, when it clearly isn't for her it's for the children.
Is there anything she can do to stop him being like this? He's not threatening violence or anything - it's more mental stuff - persistent, bullying, behaviour, that I'm not sure would get any results if she went to the police and would probably antagonise him further - but it is really getting her down. Is there anything she can do?