Don't want to go into all the ins and outs (but think I have having re read, sorry) but exdh and i own a house which is currently on the market. When it sells for a ridiculously low price I will pay off the mortgage. Theoretically I have some money in the house, I put down a deposit and it is written into something legal that I get my money back. However we also have joint debts. Most of which are in my name. (I know I am stupid so please don't point this out!) Now, I think I would rather pay off debts with any remaining cash, so I will. He has said yes he accepts he is liable for half the rest but he doesn't pay me maintenance let alone any money towards the debts.
So... what can I do? He will accept he has the debts but does nothing, and legally I have no leg to stand on as they are in my name.
I think I have no choice but to take him to court for maintenance and possibly debt money, but am reluctant to do so as I know he is utterly useless and will default endlessly making our fairly amicable relationship much less amicable which will only end up upsetting dd.
Somebody talk some sense into me... please