Can you double barrel a childs surname without asking the father?

[Meglet]

The DC's have XP's surname (I had no choice in it as he was abusive) and I want to apply for passports for them.

Can I double barrel their surnames for day to day use (school / doctors) and put it on the passports? The little pickles don't even look like me, totally opposite hair colour, so I'd rather be safe than sorry.

XP has been gone for 3 years now and it's not safe to ask him anything as he will kick off again.

TIA

No

Bugger .

IIRC you need to send the birth certificate with the passports and they have to match.

Double bugger . I wish there was a way of getting rid of abusive parents from these things, he's got hold over us on the kids bank accounts too. .

Thanks anyway.

you could ask for a court order, maybe - see someone at legal aid or citizen's advice for advice.
:)

Yes for day to day use you don't need proof I'm sure.

Passport you'd need to do a deed poll. I'd just try it with a deed poll. Whats the worst that can happen, passport agency says no?

www.deedpollregister.org.uk/apply/childs-deed-poll/

is he on the birth certificate? (or were you married when they were born)
if yes to either, then you do need his permission for a permanent namechange.
but for day=to-day, you can use any name.

He's on the birth certificate, so I know I'm kinda stuck. He made me give them his surname though, I didn't want to.

I might look into the court order, thanks nickel. I have crime references from his moments of stupidity and he was thrown out of meditation and e-mailed me to say he would never see them at a contact centre. Apparently he will see them at 18 and tell them what a bitch I am .

It would be nice to double-barrel their names for school though.

Meglet, I feel your pain...see my siimilar post. The risk with court in my case is that we are happily bobbing along with no contact and I fear that any action will prompt a renewed interest on his part. I hope you manage to resolve it

poppo same here. The bank said I should write to XP to ask to take his name off the account, if I do that I may as well ring the police at the same time to give them the heads up he'll be kicking off again .

I don't want (and can't risk) any contact but I need all this stuff changed. He knows where we live so I don't want to remind him we're still out here.

I'm surpised there isn't a legal ruling that allows the children to have their names changed in the case of abusive / violent / totally absent parents.