How can you prevent dh from moving country with dc without my approval?

[mum21boy]

Hi
I'm still married and we have a one year old. Generally speaking we are fine......but certain things have happened that have made me start to worry that dh might just get up and leave me taking dc away from me for good :( The thought makes me sick and I live in fear of this happening. I'm hoping for the best but want to prepare myself for the worse just in case but have no idea how to or even if this is possible? He is from north America and although dc doesn't have a passport from there (just a citizenship) I wonder if this is legally possible to move there without my approval? He has a British passport which I want to hide.....but not sure how to do this without raising any questions!
Strange I know and I should trust my own dh but I would never forgive myself for not doing research or finding out about this......like I say, we have an ok relationship at the moment but I am aware that things can go very wrong very quickly and i have much to lose.
Can anyone here help or even share their own experiences please? I have no idea where to start.
Thanks

You husband cannot legally take your child out of the country without your consent. If he does he is potentially guilty of child abduction and you can report him to the police. The USA and Canada are both party to the Hague Convention which is designed to ensure that abducted children are returned to their home country promptly. This includes a child removed from the home country without the consent of the other parent.

tis true. one of the reasons I'm reluctant to make a move to Oz. Because I would have to accept I'd be there forever as DH would never give me permission to return here with the boys if I changed my mind. Your DH would be charged with child abduction if he did that. Just dont move to north America!

I would certainly take a photocopy of his passport or get the number down somewhere in the event of a port block being required it's a hell of a lot easier with that information that just looking for John Smith with a child under his coat.
I thought my husband might get stopped taking our children on holiday on his own last year as they don't share the same surname, but no he sailed through passport control with three young girls.

agree with prh.

Mos I've had that quite a few times when I took my eldest DC (different surname to me) on holiday, never had any problems however I often read that others have been stopped and been questioned. Apparently Canada is one of the worst and people often advise to carry a copy of birth certificates if going there with children with different surname.

Given that you're not using the passport regularly, isn't it filed away somewhere anyway? So it could be hidden misfiled?

You say the relationship is ok but you are still worried. Certainly, put passport somewhere safe but is it possible you are being over-anxious? I'm thinking post natal anxiety or thyroid problem or something else it might be worth a chat to the GP about? Or is it that he has threatened this in the past or something?

Agree with mrecibucket. Also, there is nothing to stop him saying the passport is lost & getting another so hiding it isn't a solution.

Thanks for your advice.....will definitely take a photo copy of passport and birth certificate to hand. I'm probably being overly cautious.....but I want to be covered with what I should do if it ever happened. Our relationship has been strained lately.....I assume to be expected when adjusting to new levels of stress. But I can't help but think he might if worse case scenario happened as him and fil seemed to think it was more than reasonable to take baby of 9 months (who is still breast feeding btw) away from his mother for at least 2 months. Really upset me that they still don't think that was wrong!
I worry that when they come and visit they might start making behind the scene plans for something like this....and one day I will come home and they would have stolen him! Ok now I'm being silly......I have raised my concerns with dh but he didn't say anything that made me feel at ease which had triggered mini alarm bells off.