Picking up from school

[Latemates]

In a situation where both parents have PR and both parents regularly pick children up from school and are know vpby the school. Can one parent tell school not to allow other parent to pick up? Can the school stop the one parent picking up the children?

Thanks

[Chubfuddler]

Depends how it is worded really, if the order says his ONLY contact with Dcs is at the supervised sessions then it is probably adequate but prohibited steps as well is much better.

[blackcatsdancing]

a supervised contact order does not prevent a parent with PR from collecting their children from school/cubs/brownies etc etc. Prohibited steps order is a serious thing to do and not necessary in many situations where supervised contact is ordered - in many cases supervised contact is a stop gap measure until a full hearing/ full facts have emerged. It is highly unlikely that most parents who are going through a court process would antagonise the other parent by collecting their child from school when it was not agreed upon. It would just inflame matters. I see no reason why a parent with supervised contact could not go to watch their child in the school play. Why ever not?

[howmuchlonger]

What is the point of a supervised contact order if the nrp could just go and pick the kids up from school?
My kids would be devastated if their father turned up at their school for a play or sports day. It would ruin the enjoyment of it. He would just sneer at them because that's what he does. Everything he does to them is threatening. I'm sure not all but many rp would probably agree with me on that one.

[howmuchlonger]

Where there is a supervision order that is. I would love it if my ex was a nice, caring loving father btw

[blackcatsdancing]

its not what is the point of it, that's not the question to ask. If you feel that way about your ex you need to try to get a prohibited steps order, they are separate things for separate problems- sometimes the problems are linked but not always. Supervised contact is not seen as something that goes on forever, the hope is that the person who is being supervised will either learn how to behave, stop the problem they have (an addiction for instance) or the court when the full facts emerge will say at a final hearing that supervised is unnecessary.

[howmuchlonger]

Thanks blackcat, you're right. I'm just so tired of going to court. I always saw supervised contact as being a temporary thing but my ex seems to punish the children and they are becoming more scared of him rather than more comfortable. I just want my life back