contested contact hearing very anxious!

[kittycat68]

have to go for two day contested contact hearing in a few days and really anxious about it. EXH appied for extra contact two years ago and hearings coming up. TBH hes asked for more and more reports to be done as they recommended no contact and hes managed to get the new cafcass officer onside somehow. shes recommending contact even though children dont want it, it was an abusive marrage and am reaaly scared of him. hes going to be cross examining me as hes self litigant! i am besides my self also cafcass says no reason for no overnight contact! cant belive it ! kids aint seen him for two years any how then only once it was awful. will the judge complete ignore all the other reports in favour of this latest cafcass report ( previous cafcass said no contact!) taking womens aid with me! but last time i went to court i just sat there almost hysterical and crying am already reliving the nightmares feel sick.

mine says hes self employed so they cant go for attachment to earnings it did go to tribunal about two years ago eventually after four years but hes still apealing every descion currently owes about 20,000 . ive always finacially supported my my children from birth so will continue to do so but i find it funny that he always claims hes only cares about the childrens best interests all the time but thats only if he doesnt have to put his hand in his pocket!!

still tbh i dont care about the money kids happiness is my only concern. will post again after ive been to court let u know what happened.

Says it all really doesn't it!

Good luck for next week.

Hi kittycat

How did it go? I was thinking of you x

well order for no contact for the oldest and youngest with him prohibitted from contacting them. middle child has asd so had to agree to TRY contact for a few months to see how it goes and then back to court once again in sept. hes still playing games though with this child but was advised to let him carry on and let him hang himself ( so to speak) but it is tough watching my ds going through this.
also heard from csa this week too and apparently they are setting aside the tribunal desion from two years ago on a legal techincallity and need to go to tribunal agin and have it redone! great!
Have been advised to keep diary on whats going on with ds.
But although this judge seemed very understanding with the situation i think it seems to be at the moment that if fathers want contact the courts bend over backwards for them ( even if the fathers a complete as....ole!
thanks for asking how muchlonger your thoughts are appricated.

I read this thread with interest. I am going to a Pre Trial Review on Tues and am very nervous about the contested hearing. My ex has always and continues to be very abusive and uses drugs. What really scares me too is how he has unrealistic expectations from me, contact and my son and wants to expose our son to other people who take and sell drugs around their own children. I am fighting it all the way but am nervous as a LIP!

ny help, advice or support would be greatly received and appreciated.