I think I might have to leave my husband

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I an 36 and a bit weeks pg. dh has made it very clear he no longer loves me (in the past month!) and is only here for the baby, I was willing to put up with that to see if feelings changed but he's not come home again as I can't cry any more. I'm scared, but need to look into money Ect if I go. Please help,
What am I entitled to? How do I go about this. We have been married 6 years. Own no property, no debt. Dh earns 24k plus commission. I earn 16k but on mat leave, I'm fucked arnt I?!? What will I live off? Where will I go? Can I afford rent?

Don't do anything rash. He's the one who should leave if he really doesn't love you. From experience the first couple of months of pregnancy are not the most rational and the best thing you can do is think about yourself and the baby and show him you are strong with or without him. Whatever happens you will get through it. Something similar happened to a close friend recently. She was pregnant with her second baby and her H told her he didn't love her anymore. They separated temporarily and then he came back. He left when the baby was 8 weeks old. It turned out he had been having an affair since before she conceived the baby. She has come through it and is a wonderful mum of 2. She made a decision not to get bitter and to try and ensure the kids wouldn't suffer from constant rows. Unfortunately he is a bit screwed up and has made it very difficult. But I really admire the way she has dealt with it.

It isn't very pleasant living in the same house when you are separating, but unless it's unsafe don't move out until you have seen a solicitor to find out where you stand. You need time to get your thoughts together and make proper arrangements for finances and your child. A good starting point is to check out what state help (in particular Working Families Tax Credits) you will be entitled to @ www.entitledto.co.uk and child maintenance on the CM Options website calculator.

Y should you leave? I'm sorry but he should be the one looking for alternative accomodation! Surely he wouldnt expect you and his baby to move out!

Anyway, you should get help from working tax credits who will look at your finances and make payments to accomodate the drop in your salary. You will also be entitled to child tax credit if you are on a low income. Look into this as there have been many changes to these from April this year and more changes due for October im sure.

Sorry. Severe lack of sleep and cracking Braxton hics. My parents live close, I could live there. If he moves out we are crippled by two rents when I could stay with my family for free. His family live miles away. He would have to quit his job, then The baby gets less money. Thanks for your advice. I don't want to do this. I havnt got any choice really