Parental responsability: how much do I have to tell ExP?

[MsBakingCakes]

Recently DP, DD and me went camping just for one night. I told ExP partner that we were going camping and we saw him on Skipe before we left. The same night he called to the house to make sure we had gone camping (he is very controlling) and he is not a person who is very honest so that is why he may have thought that I was lieing to him. The same day we came back from camping we saw him again on Skipe and I asked him what he wanted when he called. He first denied calling us and when I told him that we had a missed call from him on the line land he said that he was just checking that we went camping.

A few days later he emailed me saying that he couldn't find on google the campsite we went and that he wanted to know the name of the campsite. His excuse to ask me was that he was considering taking DD camping and he wanted to go to the same place.

We live in different parts in the UK. So my main point is do I have to give him all the information? I do not trust him as he has proved me that he is not trustworthy. I know that I have to ask him his opinion about childcare and if DD is ill I need his consent for those type of things but do I have to tell him the name of the campsite we go? Do I have to tell him where we are going on holiday in the UK, name of hotel etc.?

He is the type of person that may turn up where we are and it is something I would like to avoid.

So could anyone tell me exactly what he needs to know within his parental responsabilities? He has even asked me how much money my DP earns. Does he need to know this? Isn't this consider my own life?

Thanks in advance

No you don't have to tell him where you are going on holiday in the UK and he does not have any right to know how much your partner earns.

If he has PR he has the right to be consulted on important decisions such as your daughter's education (e.g. which school she attends) and her religion. You cannot change her name without his consent. Unless you have a residence order you need his consent before you or anyone else can take her out of the UK, even for a holiday. If you have a residence order you can take your out of the UK for up to one month without his consent.

Thanks. It all just sounded a bit weird for me but he was telling me that because he has PR he has the right to know all those things.

I will keep an eye in what he is asking and what I am telling him.

Thanks again

I (relatively) recently agreed to my XP having PR for our DS. I ummed and aahed about it for a while, as I didn't agree to it - due to his lack of interest/involvement in DS activities etc. Anyway - I have a RL friend who specialises in Family Law - and she advised me to just agree to it, as in fact it doesn't give as much rights as one would think. I still have control really.

I do anyway, as XP really doesn't give much of a toss - I do try and involve him in any decision making, invite him to parents' evenings etc, but he abstains. ??

So - your XP is just being controlling IMO. He doesn't need to know where you are camping. Nor does he need to know what you or your DP earns. He is maybe trying to get one over on you. So you should read up on what PR actually imparts to the NRP.

www.childrenslegalcentre.com/userfiles/file/Parental%20Responsibility%20leaflet.pdf parental responsibility

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try again ... :)

Thanks for the link. I will look at it very carefully so next time weird questions raise at least I have some information