Would this be classed as threatening behaviour??

[AMummyFromNotts]

Basically my ex partner mum for a long period of time has been making threats about taking Full custody of my child .
It really distressing me as a mother .
Obviously my child is well looked after no health concerns or problems like that .
There just a freud between me and my ex's family as you can imagine..
She emailed me stating how she has insurance which covers her to legally take me to court and if i carry on she will go for more then just access..

Obviously since i had my dd this has been an ongoing problem as soon as she doesn't get her own way i issued with a number of threats like this for example.
Not long after the birth i was so angry with her attitude so i gave her a piece of my mind it was nothing threatening i.e i will physically hurt her it just more like you b butt out my business etc

I sometimes have message back to them in self defence as i think anyone would as after all she is provoking me.I just don't know how someone can be so evil .
I try and pretend it not getting to me but it constantly on my mind .
Is there anything i can do to legally stop all this ??
She also put updates on her fb i.e family legal protection will come to useand the only way forward is sociltors directing it to me nd court actions.

Also does anyone know if any family legal protection covers family law?
Is there any sort of insurance out there that covers family law?
What would be your advise on dealing with this?

I would imagine that the only legal cover you can get on your insurance is to sue someone for gain. Like I told you on another post I checked mine and was told family legal cover wasn't covered.
Why don't you ring round a few insurance companies and ask if you can get family legal cover.
She sounds like a vindictive cow to me. My ex on laws threatened me with allsorts but they really have very little power to actually do anything.

Ignore her threats of legal action - there is absolutely nothing she can do to you through the courts. She would even have to apply to a court for permission just to apply for court ordered contact, and she would have to show that she was a big part of your DD's life before the split. Just keep copies of all her emails and texts harassing you which you can show as evidence as to her character.

Does your ex have contact? If so she can see your DD when he has contact and chooses to visit her. Nothing much you can do about that.

Ignore the Facebook stuff, change your email or set up a second email account and tell them you've changed it and that's your new one. Then you can check it or ignore it if you want to. Change your number and just try to pretend she doesn't exist. I doubt anyone would want their daughter exposed to her viciousness so you are undoubtedly doing the right thing just concentrating on being a good mum.

It a masisve problem atm her father isn't seeing my DD, i believe if he does he should take the correct legal actions out there, if he not willing to then obviously that says enough for me from now on.

This is something that can no longer be arranged between us anymore as like i said it goes all well for a couple of weeks then his family start and so does he so then we are back to square one there many methods he could take such as Contact centres to see his DD none of which he seem interested in. He also doesn't contribute to my child so i shouldn't be putting up with any kind of abuse, i tried the csa business and they are just useless so my best bet is to keep away from them all and concentrate on myself and my dd like you said.So far it seems i always come worst off in this for being more than reasonable. I believe he uses wanting to see our dd for a way to still see me or communicate with me, when we are on speaking terms there seems to be no interest in my dd at all other than his mum for somewhate reason needs to see my child :S He isn't showing or proving he wants any kind of meaningful realtionship with my DD at all.. I know a few people reading will probably say well he the father he has a right to ,but i think every circumstance is different and that rule cannot apply in these cicumstances and i believe if this was taken to court i reckon he would only be granted contact centre access for now due to his behaviour so i don't need to worry about his mum atm to much i suppose and i believe there are stipulation that can be made alongside any contact order which both parties would have to meet if he was at a later date granted access.Surely the courts would have to make it very clear to me where my child is being taken or going whilst he had access and i'd expect it would be the same for him if he happened to be the full time carer for my dd.
Thank you for your comment, i feel much better now i know there isn't much his mother can do . I'll just have to face whatever else they decide to throw at me for the future but meanwhile i'm going enjoy every min of the day looking after my little one before i'm back to my studies.
I will keep everything i can but the chances are this isn't going to b as straightforward as they would of thought so within time i think they will all just go away and accept it.

Are you or your daughter at risk from your ex? That is the primary reason contact centres are used. Or if the child doesn't know the parent very well.

If it is a case of the two of you not getting on or able to be amicable to each other, then setting contact times and dates down in stone and a third party doing handovers would limit any contact you both need to have with each other. Set up an email account and explain you would like all communication to go through that. That way, you don't need to physically see each other and you can ignore any abusive messages while keeping it as evidence if needed in the future.

Does he have Parental Responsibility? As long as there are no welfare concerns, then there is no reason you need to be informed of where your ex is taking the child in his contact time. The same way that he cannot ask you to tell him where you take your daughter in your time. (Again, unless you have serious welfare concerns) you have to trust that he is capable of caring for his child and is taking her to suitable places in his time.

Why don't you suggest you and him attend mediation if you are unable to sort things out between you. You can set up contact arrangements with a third party present who will not allow the session to continue if there are any arguments or aggression.

Contact should not really be stopped and him forced to go to court to gain it back unless absolutely necessary, ie. he is a risk to your child. You haven't explained clearly in your posts why you have done this though. If he is a danger to either of you, then it's understandable, but it does sound like you are all arguing between yourselves and you need to try and distance yourself and ignore anything not directly related to your daughter.

A warning to the ex's mother to stop the threatening contact or you will contact the local police station make her take a step back.

send an email tot eh mnother saying 2please stop harassing me or i will go tothe police" then do not repond to anything else sent.
simply collect as evidence and take to police.

do not do not

do not get into slanging match with her you must must ignore her.
if she goes to court then deal with that then - but as was said is unlikely.

offer conact at set times using third party to hand over . unless serious welfare concerns

Tbh there no1 that willing to do any sort of handover as my close friends have had problem with him in the past ,so have my close family members so that out the window before we start.Plus when asked about the handover business he wasn't interested .

Secondly he doesn't pay any child maintanace and i have contacted the CSA he refusing to acknowlegde he is the father eventhough he demands to see my daughter when it suits him and when he does he spends all his time trying it on with me, which he later twistes the story to other people. Like i said he doesn't ask to see his child tbh he using her to start a conversation then as soon as a i reply it turns into chat up lines.I also told him like we'll never get back and i'm just letting you see your daughter since then he never spoke to me or ask to see his daughter so i assume this isn't really about him having a realtionship with his DD.
He isn't on the birth cert.For personal reasons and in my opinion he best kept off as it isn't going solved anything at all.
I had the police invovled that issued him a warning for violent threats as last time he visited my child he threaten to smash my windows in and didn't strap my daughter in her pushchair which could of seriously hurt her if she had of fell out he then made up a lie to friends and family that i had locked in him my house and he did it because of that:S eventhough my door was unlocked and which he walk out and came back in shouting. He made numberous allegations that i been trying stuff on so i offered to meet up in public places which he refused to and randomly turned up at my door eventhough he claims all these sort of allegations.

This ex partner also has serious lying issue and has been getting girls he seeing to contact me starting on me alongside threats from him that this girls wants to beat me up etc..
I've decided to cut him offf so far he hasn't ask about seeing his daughter and he just been trying to make random conversation which doesn't even concern my daughter or me this person is completely best left to the courts to decide...
It definately a situation you have to be in to understand the nature behind this and the type of person we are dealing with.

he got this some kind of illusion and created an impression, that i only let him see his daughter because i trying to engaged some sexual activity..
As stated my ex partner has came onto me on a number of occasions. Slapping my arse ,stalking me to the shops then sending saucy textes goes in for kisses before he goes.Then as soon as he no longer with me he twisted the whole story to everyone he knows accusing me off the things.
He mum alongisde the abusive messages also was saying how desperate for her son i just decided to block him and didn't even respond explaining how that was no where near true :S and even if i did she'll still refused to believe it.