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Should I draft a letter to his lawyer complaining about his behaviour?

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redbaren · 27/02/2012 21:51

I have been in court now for 6 years with the father of my ds.
My ex is trying to get joint custody of our ds and weekday contact. My ds has told the CAFCASS officer he does not want this.
The judge at the last hearing threw out the interim contact order and said it should be just a final hearing after the cafcass report has been filed.
However now my ex has appealed on the grounds the judge said he did not read all his witness statement...it was nearly 200 pages long!
I have to go to court in 6 days unrepresented.
I wrote to the court today apposing his grounds for an appeal...the cafcass report is not due in until the 13th March.
My x is constantly interragating my son on the phone to find out about me and my private life. He keeps coming round to my house with the excuse he is dropping off a toy for ds. Last week he also showed up twice and at a dentist appointment and his drama class. Plus insists on calling him every night even when he has seen him.Tonight he told ds he was coming around again to drop off some lego as he always forgets things at his house after week end contact and I sent him a text and asked him not to come and to drop off the lego at ds school. I find all this behaviour quite distressing...he was abusive when we were together.
Do you think Im being unreasonable to draft a letter to his lawyer and ask him to stop interragating his son and turning up at the house as it is only causing extra tension to an already bad situation.
My ds is suffering and is becoming more reclusive at school since this all happened, It just breaks my heart...
Ive drafted a letter to the lawyer already but Im nervous about sending it!

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Collaborate · 28/02/2012 09:44

Yes - write to his solicitor setting all this out. Also apply to the court for a prohibited steps order. this would basically stop him coming round unless it is for court ordered contact.

MOSagain · 28/02/2012 16:09

Agree with Collaborate

redbaren · 28/02/2012 17:33

Ive drafted the letter but not sent it yet...scared it mighty be twisted and used against me in some way....

However just had great news! Ive written to the judge and the appeal he managed to get listed against refusal of mid week interim contact has just been curtailed!
he is going for a joint residency order. Can I go for a prohibited steps order at the same ti,me or does this make it look like its tit-for-tat?

thanks for all your advice!

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