My ex H is currently serving in Indeterminate prison sentence (IPP) with a minimum tariff of 6 years. He is going in front of a parol board in april when his 6 years is up and hoping to be released. I have 3 dds with him (15, and twins 11) obviously he is hoping to resume contact with them. Whilst I am keen for my dds to have the right to see their father I need it to be done in a controlled and proper way.
He is a compulsive liar, manipulative (not to mention a convicted violent criminal) and I dont trust him as far as I can throw him. Before he went to prison he made my life hell demanding money and threatening suicide most weeks.
I want to be pro-active with this situation and prepared for his release.
How do I go about sorting contact centres etc or do I have to wait for him to apply for contact through a court. I do not want him just turning up at the house.
My eldest dd knows her dad is in prison the twins dont. Do I tell them in plenty of time so that they get used to the idea of seeing him (but run the risk of them being disappointed and upset if he doesnt get released) or do I wait until I definitely know he will be released. I have previously thought they were too young to know, although I have never lied to them about his whereabouts, they have just never asked me. They were 4 the last time they saw him and before that contact was very sporadic - they just forgot about him I guess.
By the way when we were together he was a great dad and a great husband, until I found out he was virtually living a double life.
If you have any legal knowledge or just moral support I would really appreciate it.