Hi there,
I am french and live in UK for 5 years. I ve been having an affair with a man I met on a dating website.
I got pregnant by accident while I was about to stop the whole thing as I just could not stand him anymore: I also discovered that he had mental health issues and was under antidepressent.
He wanted me to abort and I ve decided to keep the child. I told him that I would not prevent him from knowing the child at this time but I did not want to have anything to do with him personaly anymore.
He became very nervous and started to harass me.
I had to report him to the police during my pregnancy and once the baby was born he applied for Prohibited Step Order 2 days after I gave birth preventing me to go to France and visit my family. I was devastated. I have no family here in UK.
I went to court and he was able to get contact with my daughter every 2 weeks 90 minutes supervised by his sister who I barely know. She is also responsible for the Handover. And I also had to give him parental Responsibility.
This allowed me to travel to France for 3 weeks.
I will be applying for leave to remove and my paralegal as I never met with my solicitor sent a letter to his solicitor to ask him if he would agree for me to leave the country and take my child permanently to France. He did not replied yet and instead asked for more contact. I already feel like I ve given too much as my child is breastfeeding and I cannot be there due to the harassement. At the last hearing I have just been pressurized and rushed by the barrister.
Last time my daughter got back from the contact she was different, teary and wanted to be only with me. She is a happy baby full of life.
I understood by the little that the sister says to me during the handover that she cries and I am afraid that they just drive with her around to calm her down.
I do not want to give him more contact for the sake of my child and also because I am in such distress already few days before the contact that I feel just like I will faint before I give them my baby.