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Res Order, Statement format, advice for a potential self-repper...

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razumov · 09/02/2012 11:57

Hello
I really need some urgent advice re my statement which needs to be filed simultaneously with exHs' one. It is due in just after half-term which leaves me v little time to work on it. You may recognise my story under previous name.
Background..exH abusive (DV) and abused DS badly when we were living abroad, we came back to our house in the UK, he decided to up sticks back to his native country. He turned up, I got in terim PSO. It was scheduled for re-hearing. My legal aid solicitor contacted him but no reply or acknowledgement.

He turned up to the court with a RO application, interim RO APPLICATION, TWO ABS IRRELEVANT specific issue order applications about matters never disputed, extra form claiming he was victim of DV and a statement with rambled on full of lies using eveidence which was actually against him (SS report, EP report) as supposedly backing up his case. My solicitors whom I had been begging for a RO for six months never stood up to his barrister (he also had a Mackenzie) so basically nobody advocating on my behalf. Judge ordered a s37 as he implied that I had absconded from UK with him and now absconded from his country and I was going to run away again (when all I did was come back home after a few weeks of hell where DS has always lived).
He denied physical abuse of DS despite SS having interviewed DS alone and claimed that I was emotionally harming DS as I was overprotective/could not set boundries (all crap, I was just overcompensating for a deadbeat violent father who would sleep all day and was leading a morally dubious lifestyle, possibly on drugs)

The feckless wastrel had claimed legal aid (despite leaving the UK, working freelance for his Mackenzie friend and squirrelling the money into places to finance his addictions). So much for the no-order principle constantly being pointed out to me.

I am trying to get my statement together. Solicitor told me that no major harm has been done, it was only a directions hearing, I may get a barrister next time, I cant afford to go private so really I know it is down to me to get the statement right for the next hearing. Obv there is loads more but I should get to the point.

Q1 - Is it right that my solicitor is addressing his concerns first in my statement when the penny has finally dropped and it is a combined statement actually in support of my own RO application. Surely addressing the lies should naturally happen in the course of my own statement and be referred to briefly as such. I HATE the fact that due to their silly explanations, I am now the respondent to a bunch of lies rather than a petitioner. I had such a lot going on in my favour but it now feels that I will be on trial wrt s37

Q2 Could anybody direct me to an online example website of what a statement should look like, how long it should be, how appropriate it would be to use family/friend statements (sworn) at this stage, or else tell me what is the correct way of doing this. It is not a final hearing.

Q3 Could anybody recommend a hot legal-aid barrister (in London PRFD)

Q4 DS is at risk of significant harm if he were to be left alone with ExH. I am worried that wont be reflected - I have sought a second opinion and I know that contact is going to be the main issue. He is trying to get DS to spend half his time in his native country. DS hated it there, does not speak the language, never bonded with his relatives, has SNs which requite on going input here, loves living here and is very much part of a close community and supportive wider family, DS was beaten to a pulp by ExH which is what ended the marriage as it happened over many weeks, I have been st DV too and he was cautioned over it,DS finds the thought of spending time with him traumatic. Surely it should never be the case that he is viewed as
neurotypical, happy child who is ferried here and there between two loving parents - we have been abused, the ss ep reports bear this out, why is our DV and the antagonism which went before it in the UK, being belittled by my solicitor. I have people in whom I confided at the time who would testify but this is not considered worthwhile by her. What more would they really expect in terms of evidence?

Q4 Ds is nearly 7 - he is distressed by phone contact let alone anything else. It is actually more than he wants to take on psychologically. It has been rubbished by ExH as amounting to nothing/claimed DS has been manipulated by myself.
When will his opinion count as important enough?

Sorry about all the questions. I just want to get the balance of the statement absolutely right. I don't want to get bogged down by masses of unsubstantiated crap chucked this way by ExH. This is my chance to finally have a voice and get the order I have been begging for ever since we came home. So, so frustrating

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razumov · 09/02/2012 12:00

sorry if unclear, both DS and I were born in UK and have always lived here prior to the five week stint in ExH country

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razumov · 09/02/2012 12:05

also, what level of detail would be required for the statement - if the solicitor dismisses large chunks of evidence and witness statements how can my case possibly be fairly represented.

Also concerned that last time, she attached my SS report to the back of PSO which gave him opportunity to tear it apart. Would he do the same with the contents of my statement before the final hearing? Are you meant to roll out the detail in stages, tactically speaking, or put it all into the statements so that s37 people will look at it. Will they investigate things which do not go onto the statement? I have tried to ask solicitor but have not recd a clear answer

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Collaborate · 09/02/2012 12:23

I can't speak for anyone else,but you have legal representation, and your solicitor will be the best placed person to advise about what should or shouldn't be going into your statement. whether you have confidence in him or not, you're better listening to his advice than what anyone on this message board has to say.

Justw0nder1ng · 09/02/2012 12:23

Hi Raz. I've self repped through 8 of my 10 court hearings in similar circumstances. I too am a respondent and it has done me no harm whatsoever, these men show their true colours believe me! X

Collaborate · 09/02/2012 12:24

don't drip feed allegations. you're less credible doing it that way. Put it all in the first statement.

razumov · 09/02/2012 12:49

thanks for your replies - as I have said the solicitors do mainly legal aid cases in huge volumes and they have very little time to devote to more complex cases. This means that things could go easily wrong in a case like mine where there are abusive men playing the system. She actually doesn't mind me having this input. I am not deviating from what she has advised. She knows it is not a one-sized-fit-all type of situation.

Justwondering - do you have any advice re form/content of statements? At the directions hearing, I was prevented from speaking even though I had a lot to say. Solicitor was stumped by the barrister and had only prepared for PSO hearing and nothing else. When the while barrage of other applications were pulled out of the magic hat at the last minute she was stumped and let his false allegations be heard without really saying anything back in response. I never want to be in a situation like that again. I believe the damage should have been contained earlier on.

Would it be possible to request for instance, that his email evidence be disregarded. He has my computer. Even for my previous email accounts, I never had the passwords though he did and would not share them with me. I know that he has doctored email correspondance in the past and I am worried sick that he will do the same in relation to myself,. Also, the docs he made me sign under duress. Could I ask for an order banning these to be used as evidence against me?

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razumov · 09/02/2012 16:47

any other advice by any chance?

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Justw0nder1ng · 09/02/2012 19:17

Just on my way home, I'll inbox you later x

razumov · 09/02/2012 19:22

oh thanks so much.

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cestlavielife · 09/02/2012 22:29

If ds was beaten to a pulp do you have medical records as evidence ?
I think is very complex and you need strong evidence so you can write a sentence refuting ex and refer to exhibit a b c etc

razumov · 09/02/2012 23:57

the bruising has gone as it has been six months - the burn mark is still there and DS has a lot to say about it on his own account, I have tried to get hold of cctv images from public places but I suspect there aren't many available and one person whom I intended to use as a witness has moved jobs and I was too afraid to ask his name/involvement at the time so I would not know where to look for him. He was employed by a huge chain of shops but the manager has just been recruited and she said that he left before she arrived.

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cestlavielife · 10/02/2012 10:26

did you take pictures of the bruises at the time?
or a report from Ss to add as an exhibit?
something to confirm what happened

razumov · 11/02/2012 11:33

I was telling family about devts several times a day. I thought about photos at the time but it seemed horrific and I felt it would compound a hellish situation and not necessarily be useful. I told British Embassy/ various solicitors abut it at the time

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