Hi
The very very basic history to all this is my partner has 2 children with his ex, his daughter just turned 2 and his son turns 1 next week.
They were always arguing/fighting splitting up and him moving back to his mums address, then back to his ex to try to make it work. During the first year of his daughters life whilst always splitting up his ex would take his daughter to his mums to allow contact, it was very informal and as and when it suited his ex. They then officially split up before finding out she was pregnant again with his son and he continued to informally see his daughter and was allowed to see both children when his son was first born, he was at birth etc too.
She then stopped contact for 10 months when she realized he was very serious that they wouldn?t get back together. My dp has gone through solicitors for the last 10 months saving for court, his ex made up a number of lies that he was a drug user etc etc and would only allow contact in a supported contact centre but she pulled out last minute. During their time together she also falsely accused him of assault it went to court and he was found not guilty but she also uses this to back up her reason for no contact.
She made a complete U turn and for the last 4 weeks she has been allowing him contact. Again very informal and as and when it suits her (although it has been weekly, every weekend or a weekday) she then stopped contact again at the weekend. Her reasons was because he puts me and my daughter first, go play daddy to my kid and save again for court was what she said.
This was because she re arranged the agreed time once which dp went with (she has also done this a couple of times in last 4 weeks which dp has just changed without making any issues) and then on the same day wanted to re arrange the time again but he couldn?t make it so instead of finding a compromise of what they both could do she went in to one about me. She did say to him he hasn?t let them down but its my fault so thank me for not being able to see them again!!!
How do I word all this in section 7 of the C100 form
I am aware that it needs to be brief and focus on what is best for the children, and needs to show how she keeps stopping contact for reasons not in the best interest for their kiddies. Her feelings about me are making her stop contact and that?s not right.
It also asks what the reasons the respondent stated, how do I word her reason without it sounding like mud slinging
DP is LIP and so any help wording this form correctly would be very very helpful
Thanks