I'll try and explain this briefly. My mum remarried 14 years ago (her first husband and my dad died 26 years ago), so when she remarried she took more into the marriage than her new husband who was a divorcee.
My mum died last year but before her death was very open about her will and what me and my sister were to have. She had labelled all the furniture that came from our family originally to make sure that me and my sister knew what was ours. Almost every other visit was spent explaining which wedding ring / engagement ring / silver tea set we were each to take etc etc. But also explained that her and her husband's will's were identical - all assets etc were to go to the remaining partner for as long as they were alive. In order to safeguard things the assets (ie house, savings, premium bonds etc) were to be split and 50% put in a trust to ensure that each set of children would eventually get what they were entitled to. Does that make sense so far?
But me and my sister assumed, and I know that my mum intended, that things like her jewellery from before this second marriage and all her silver teasets / antique furniture, would come straight to us - they had come from "our" family originally. But my stepdad is now in the process of having everything valued in order to work out how much goes into the trust, and all this stuff is being included too in this valuation. I have tried to work out whether this means me and my sister lose out or whether it all works out in the end. But every way I do it I always seem to work out that me and my sister will only end up with half teh value of all this jewellery etc and my step-brother and step-sister will end up with half of too, which seems really unfair.
I do understand that this is what teh will said, but I know that my mum had not appreciated what it actually meant when the time came (based on her numerous conversations with us to get as much sorted beforehand). She would be so upset to think that neither me nor my sister have had a single piece of her jewellery as her husband says it all has to be valued to go towards probate. And then I think if we want any of it we have to buy it at it's valuation price and the money is put into the trust.
Is there anyone out there who understands this, and can tell me whether this all sounds right? And is there anything that I can do to ensure that me and my sister get all teh stuff that came from our "original" family?