Well she's been home for an hour and hasn't come over and avoided being in the garden when I was, although I hovered outside hoping to catch her.
I popped in to get something for ds, went back out to see her washing had been taken in and the back door shut! Coincidence?
I figured she was going to vanish off again without speaking to me because no one would close their back door in this heat and so knocked on the front door and asked to have a quick word about the garden...
"What about the garden"?
No straight out with yes sorry or oh I was going to come see you...
So I had to explain that it was obvious they had been in my garden moving things. "Oh yes they moved your pots out the way and took out the fence panels"
Her excuse is that her son turned up on Friday without warning to do it and I wasn't here to ask.
I pointed out that it was still tresspass and she needed my permission 'But you weren't there to ask' she says again.
I said that she could of given me warning of the possibility of this happening so I was aware of the possibility because she must have know it would at some point even if she couldn't be specific on the date. I also made it clear that it is my fence, my garden, and my pots and she needs my permission to move things and be in there and should of waited till she got it.
"But they put everything back and I told them to be careful" 
I explained there was minor damage, the trellis had been left on top of plants and a couple of things had been broken, nothing I was going to moan specifically about. She said she'd come over and help me move the pots and pay for any damage. I said I didn't actually want her in my garden and that I would move them and that I would rather have moved them myself in the first place.
More of the "you weren't there so I could ask you" to which I pointed out that the neighbour on the otherside knew where I was and has my mobile number so I can be contacted if there was ever an emergency which putting cladding on her gas bottle house is not
I also pointed out that I knew she had spoken to the other neighbour to say they'd be bring materials through the right of way but that she hadn't put a note through my door to advise me what had happened or tried to come and see me since and it felt like she was trying to get away with it. "No not at all", she says, "it was all such a rush". Well it's wednesday now and it happened on friday. Considering we got home friday evening she wasn't in so much of a rush to let me know now was she!
I said I have no problem with you using the right of way, you don't have to ask for that, but you do need to ask to move things in my garden.
Finally she apologises (but only because there's nothing else to say really is there). It wasn't sincere and I don't think she meant it as in I won't do it again and she certianly hasn't accepted that she was in the wrong imo. "You know I wouldn't want to upset you, we do have to live next door to each other..." Not an I was in the wrong and I should have been in your garden without permission and I won't do it again.
I told her communication was the key and that I had said that to her before. That I would have probably said yes, but she should have asked me. "OK" she says.
I think I need to follow up with a letter still as she clearly doesn't get it. Being in a rush is not an excuse for trespassing or ignoring your neighbour's rights. I do feel I need to be strong about this now or her son and boyfriend she will just keep walking all over me.
If it was the first things then ok let it go, but it isn't.