have been "invited" to have mediation

[OnlyWantsOne]

X and I battled it out on court re access DD - two years later, he now has limited access.

Ive not been asked to go to mediation, I dont want to, its over an hour drive, I have two kids to look after / find childcare etc, and I dont want to sit and talk to him - im pleasent re contact, we organise it via email - my DP does hand overs (x has history of violence towards me) I do not want to sit breast feeding DD2 infront of him

I can so no? Will I be sent back to court??

*now not not

when this happened to me the mediation was moved to my town,also had a new baby....BUT ....when i went to first session,without the ex,i was told mediation isnt suitable where there has been a history of violence

are either of you claiming legal aid?

If you don't go to mediation now, the court will order you to it if he applies to court.

It's hard to see how this would work, and I don't know whether his history of violence would mean the judge wouldn't send you, but for legal aid violence over 12 months ago isn't an automatic bar.

Having said that, the legal aid board are always realistic when I think something is pointless being sent to mediation.

I dont get legal aid, he does.

I cant afford the time, the travel, the parking, the child care.

But you can afford all that if it goes to court? No option then, and the judge will most likely try and make you go, but giving you the legal aid get outs is intended to help you try and get out of court directed mediation. You can't bury your head in the sand though, and it will get sorted either at court or through mediation.