Sorry, me again. Just to re-cap...
Soon to be Ex-H left the family home in April 2010. He has not paid anything in child maintenance, his argument being that he left with nothing. I live in the marital home with 2DSs aged 8 and 6. H and I jointly owe my mother £20,000 which went towards the house purchase, of which there is £15,000 left to pay (I have paid the £5,000 and intend to continue to repay the loan to my mother).
It was agreed between us that I would buy him out of the marital home for £42,750. Adding this to the current loan to my mum I would have a total debt of around £58,000. I only work 25 hours a week at minimum wage.
I was due to sign the mortgage application today so called the CSA last night, feeling that if I was going to present H with a cheque for £43k, he needed to be contributing towards the upkeep of his children. Besides, I would not be able to afford the extra mortgage without asking for child maintenance.
DH hit the roof at my audacity to ask for maintenance. He has now told me that if he has to pay child maintenance then he wants more money from me, with regards to the money from the marital home. It?s rather peculiar. My initial reaction is to just do / say nothing and wait until solicitor starts to handle my financial statement (have not yet received Nisi).
I do everything for my children. I pay for them, handle all of their activities, homework etc. H also asked me if I would tell the CSA that they sleep over once a week so that he only has to pay £53 pw instead of £63. He has the children to sleepover twice a month (his choice). Please note that this man has not contributed a bean in one year.
Any words of advice on how to handle this situation?