Can I stop my STBX letting his OW meet my children

[AvoidingTheOW]

In very short, I know that she is a stripper and I also know that she takes drugs.

Given these 2 bits of info, can I do anything legally to prevent this woman being allowed to play mummy to my children?

Thanks

You'd have to be specific about the risk she poses to them. How old are the kids? What drugs does she take? How do you know?

You'd need to persuade a court that she represents a real danger to your children for the court to even consider banning her from any contact with your children. The stripping thing is unlikely to get you anywhere. It is, for better or worse, a legal occupation. You may well have an entirely justified moral objection but it doesn't make her unfit to have any contact with children.

The drug taking might have some influence if you can prove it; prior convictions for drug possession would help here. Even then, though, it depends an awful lot on the judge, the drugs she's using (occasional cannabis might well be ignored, regular heroin usage might not), and how CAFCASS view the situation.

You might have a bit more luck persuading a court to make an order to prevent her meeting your children until their relationship has become demonstrably longer-term - say, three to six months. To quickly introduce new partners to the children can be seen as not putting the childrens' interests first. This is particularly true if there has been a lot of new partners being paraded past the kids.

But I wouldn't get my hopes up if I were you. The basic view is often that if you regard your STBX competent enough to have contact with your children then you just need to trust his judgement about who he introduces them to and when. What he does when the children are with him is largely down to him unless he puts them at serious risk of harm. He's their parent too. You don't have a right to dictate who he introduces them to, just as he doesn't have the right to dictate to you.

One question though - why do you think she would be wanting to "play mummy" to your children? Do you really think your children will be in any way unsure of who their mother really is?

how long have they been together?

Soon to be ex

I was assuming it was STupid Bastard Ex!