DH thinks I am having an affair. I am not. He wants to draw up a post-nuptial agreement stating that if I do have an affair, I would not get custody of our DCs and would not be entitled to half his assets, etc.
Let?s live in fantasy land for just one moment. Say I am having an affair, should I lose custody of the kids as a result? As this is fantasy land, I?m only asking as I?m interested in people?s perspectives here as this seems quite a controversial opinion. I don?t agree that someone is incapable of looking after their kids because they?ve had an affair and I don?t think it?s right to use custody of the kids as a threat. DCs are 3 and 1, BTW, so not old enough to decide for themselves.
Let?s come back to reality. I am not having an affair but I don?t want to sign a document stating that a circumstance exists where I would be happy to give up custody of the children. I don?t ever want to lose my kids, no matter what the circumstances and I fear injustice ? with the best will in the world, the legal system is not without its flaws and what if a judge or jury rules that I am having an affair when I?m not and I lose the kids? DH?s argument is if I?m so sure I won?t have an affair, then I should just sign the agreement and by refusing I am fuelling his suspicions.
Posting this in relationships and legal to increase my chances of responses.