Family Lawyers, please can you advise me about this?

[Orangepuffle]

Sorry to bother you.

I'm currently at the financial statement part of the divorce. Ex H and I have agreed an amount that I should pay him for staying in the marital home. It has been passed over to our solicitors. Divorce has been filed for in the courts by me.

As an aside, my mum has been desperately ill for the past year and has alternated between staying with me and being in hospital. As I do not have a spare room I have been sleeping on DS1s floor. Mum returned to her house last week and we arranged for care to go in daily, but she is back in hospital.

My question is...could I extend my home to accommodate another bedroom at this stage in my divorce? Would it affect anything? Mum would have to self-finance it as I have no savings at all.

I would appreciate your advice. Thank you.

Just to clarify...my concern is extending the former marital home before all of the finances being finalised. Am desperately trying to find a way to care for mum properly.

Is your ExH divorced from you as in decree absolute? I have no idea but it might clarify the issue for the experts.

I wouldn't advise it unless a consent order has been made in divorce. You could rush one through in maybe 3-4 months if you haven't yet issued divorce proceedings, but you could bet it in 2-3 weeks if you have decree nisi.

I have filed for divorce but not yet heard whether he's responded to the petition. Thanks Resolution, that's given me enough reason to wait as I value you opinion.

Just don't know what to do to help mum.

Just push it through as fast as you can. You can still apply for planning permission and get quotes from builders. Just don't spend the money before you have your order.

Thanks Res and BabyB. It's so fab when you give clear indications like this.

I will continue to wait