advice re nanny

[mummyhelpreq]

Hi
Need some help/advice if anyone has been in similar position.
We have a nanny who is on maternity, prior to going on maternity we had mentioned that household duties were not up to scratch and that my eldest often complained that he was never played with just left to watch TV while the nanny looked after my youngest and her child (who we allowed her to bring to work). We have a temp nanny at present and I have seen my two children blossom so much the youngest is going to Gym/swimming etc which my old nanny could not do due to her having her own child in tow. My eldest has activities planned for him each day after school. My old nanny is due back from maternity in April and mentioning this to the eldest brings a complete breakdown / sobbing the lot as he really does not want her back, I can't bear to see him upset like this and wondered whether anyone has been in a similar situation ??? I dont want to take my youngest out of all these classes he now does and don't wish to see the eldest go back to being withdrawn and left to the tv for entertainment.

HELP - v v stressed mummy

Assuming she is on maternity leave having another baby and that she is planning on bringing that baby into work with her after leave AS WELL as her other child, that is going to leave her even more stretched.

Have you got a contract with her? Does it mention bringing her own child? Presumably it only mentions the one child as she is only just having the second one now? If so, then you will need to re0jig the contract before she can come back anyway, so I'd make it so that the job is the same but no children with her - if thats not legallly ok then keep it at one child with her only and she will most likely leave then as she would have to find childcare for the baby herself, then you will be free to find a new nanny with no children of her own to take up her time!

Thanks we have already said she cannot under any circumstances bring the new child as she did have it all worked out before telling us she was expecting that ther current child would go to grandparents two days and nursery the third ! But we have said no baby at all it would have to be the current child that returns with her (her baby would only be 9 weeks old when she is due to rtn however !!) I cannot change the contract as that is not legal. I am hoping that she decides not to rtn as eveyone who has seen my children since she has left has commented on how much more developed they are especially the 2 year old he has come on amazingly in just 5 weeks as they are both not fighting to get attention as its two of them with no third child !