ExP of BIL refusing to answer emails, letters etc.

[sneezecakesmum]

What does he do. It is very acrimonious, she threw him out before xmas, changed the locks, thrown his clothes on the lawn. He refuses to speak to her face to face,by phone or text as she is intimidating and he is a wimp! She demanded he signed the house over to her (joint names) or no property whatsoever back.

He has said via email they should seek mediation, but he wanted a half share (he is entitled) to the house and would start maintainance payments as soon as she liked. Now she knows he wont cave in she has said she has closed her email account so short of letters there is no way of contacting her.

Does BIL get a solicitor to write to her?

Can he write himself with his (reasonable) terms?

Will he have to take her to court if she ignores him and the solicitor?

Its all manipulation and brinkmanship with her. Her first husband was treated like this and she ran up £8000 solicitors fees (20 years ago) despite being told by him she was wasting money (stupid BIL paid that bill for her) ExH committed suicide soon after and BIL is on anti depressants now.

BIL sort of sees light at the end of the tunnel. When chucked out he came to us and we introduced him to a good friend - and they get on like a house on fire! She is definitely his light! As she lives 100 miles away from ExP (who told BIL she wanted him out of her town!) he will ultimately live near us we hope, and has taken to coming here each weekend but back at his workshop during the week and stopping with his son. He wants to wind down his business and leave, his son is upset (19 yo) but BIL is happy to travel to see him (and hopefully his DD).

Will get him to talk to bank re mortgage to really clarify situation.

ddrmum Did you find it easier to put physical distance between you and ex as a way of removing some of the fear? BIL quakes in his boots when talking on the phone to her (hence no more calls) goodness only knows what he would be like in a face to face.