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H2010 · 16/11/2010 14:45

Unhappy advice needed please!!

Sorry this is a rather long and complicated thread. In August my ex smashed up my house, kicked in the back door (glass) with my at the time 8 week baby in the room while drunk I told him to leave a couple of days later he returned drunk smashed up my bedroom and tried to take the baby out of the crib he was stumbling all over the place I managed to take the baby off him and again told him to leave after a very heated argument he left. Soon after he left I discovered my car key had gone off my house keys I looked out the window and the car had been taken. He has no license etc and was extremely drunk. I rang the police to repot it and was told the car had been found on its roof with my ex inside the car was a write off and he was arrested and charged for theft drink driving etc. He was sent to prison for 8 weeks. When he was in prison I was gettin endless phone calls/text messages off his family re access to the baby. The calls started to get threatening so I stopped all contact. He was released 3 weeks ago and has not stopped pestering me since. I report all contact to the police and they advised me to get an injunction via a solicitor. I am now back with my husband who I have 2 children to and we are very happy as are the children. I am not entitled to legal aid my ex is he has never had a job in his life, has an alcohol problem, a long criminal recored and a 3 year asbo. He just wont leave me alone wanting to see the baby. she is now 5 months old and is a very happy settled little girl and I dont want him anywere near her. Sorry its so long. Please help !

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prh47bridge · 17/11/2010 10:28

The courts start from the position that your daughter is entitled to contact with her father. It is therefore likely that he will get contact if he goes to court. Given his history you may be able to persuade the court to order supervised contact but the expectation will be that this will move to unsupervised contact in the long term.

You obviously don't have to allow contact until there is a court order in place. However, you have to be careful that you don't appear unreasonable to the courts. I know you don't want him to have any contact and I can understand that given the history but the reality is that he is likely to get contact if he goes to the courts. You may therefore want to consider mediation to see if you can arrive at an arrangement which is acceptable to both you and your ex.

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