Is there anything I can do e.g. injunction against abusive father and his SIL?

[TheLifeOfRiley]

Will try not to turn this into a saga.

My dad is an alcholic abusive paedophile who I prosecuted for child abuse 10ish years ago along with my much younger step sister. He was found guilty and put on register for 10 years I believe. Had no contact with him since.

In meantiome I am now a single parent of a 6yr old autistic child.

A couple of weeks ago walking my ds into school which is literally right round the corner from our house my dad drives by very slowly, whilst winding his passenger side window down to get my attention and stare.

I went into school for reassurance they wouldn't let anyone take my ds out of school and headteacher took incident very seriously and logged his name, time and date.

Fast forward to today I am stood in school playground when a woman approaches me. It is my aunt (my dad's SIL) who he stayed with while he was on bail (I have only just found this out an hour ago from my sister). She said she 'wanted to check it was me'. Asked after my mum, my sisters, me, etc. I was very cold and short in my comversation and she went off and stood at the next classroom door to my DS to pick a child up!

I am feeling a little worried and intimidated to be honest. Is there anything I can do to pre-empt them harassing me? My aunt was about 6 inches away from me whilst she was talking to me and I am glad I kept my cool and didn't rise to her attempts at conversation.

Is there anything I can do? Going no contact I felt in control - now they know where my DS goes to school everyday and which class he is in, could easily see us walking into our house, and 'aunt' could go into school on a family learning day and speak to my DS who has no awareness of me even having a dad.

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Sorry you are going through this.

Do you have any indication that your aunt will harass you or anything else?

You could just try talking to her, explain that you do not want any part of your father in your or your child's life?

She might understand just fine.

My aunt knowingly housed a paedophile when he could have stayed in a bail hostel out of town until trial date (something me and my sisters would have been much more comfortable with).

It was obvious from our conversation yesterday that either:

• my dad had seen me by huge coincidence and told her to look out for me in the playground

or

• my aunt had seen me, told my dad, who then was slowly driving past the primary school in the hope of spotting me and glaring at me.

My son's headteacher has been great, really supportive and reassuring and I am going to pop into my local police station tomorrow to clarify if he is allowed near me, and basically try to find out as much as I can.

Also I was wrong with my dates last night - it was approx 8yrs ago I prosecuted so he will still be on the sex offenders register.

NONE of my dad's family are the kind of relatives I want in mine or my son's life - they all have dubious morals, family histories, abuse, etc in their past and I want none of them near me - particularly one who is supportive of a known paedophile.

Last night I felt scared, today I feel angry and defensive.

So sorry to hear this - how awful for you. I'm so impressed that you found the strength to prosecute.

Do you know which child your father's SIL was picking up, and have you let the headteacher know that she was doing so?

Do tell the police about the child your aunt was picking up. If she is still so supportive of your father, he may well have access to that child and any siblings and the police need to know about it. If your father is around those children the police may well investigate him. Either way they are likely to tell him not to approach the school or you.

I suppose the best thing is to tell your aunt that you don't want to resume contact with the family. I'd be reasonably low-key with her, at least at first, to avoid this escalating into any kind of confrontation.

It's really horrid for you but you sound very strong and I bet your father knows not to mess with you.