It is looking like dh and I will be splitting very soon (together 9 years, married for 4 years with one dd aged 12).
It has been instigated by me; no one else is involved, we have grown apart I feel and for various reasons (none of them involving him causing me any harm) has led me, after months of soul searching, that we should split. Dh knows how I feel, and has more or less accepted that we might split, although, he is desperate for us to stay together.
Because he hasn't actually 'done' anything, I wouldn't dream of asking him to leave. We have a mortgage on house together, joint bank accounts, etc, and we have enough equity in the house that would enable us to both put down good deposits on a new house each. We both have reasonable jobs, both pay into pensions, etc, and earn similiar amounts. So, further down the line, we should financially both be okay.
BUT - what happens in the short term? I have offered to rent, but am concerned about how this might look, as I'd be leaving the marital home. He promises that things would be amicable, but, when push comes to shove, I know the nicest person in the world can become bitter. I obviously intend that our daughter would spend some or most of the time with me, and time with dh, but again, how would this look in the short term if I left? I don't want to leave, but can't imagine us both living under the same roof, if it takes months to sell the house. Anyone else been in the same position?