Court Orders and phone calls?

[IanD]

Hi

My partner has a court order in place for her daughter to see her dad every other weekend, now the problem is when the daughter goes with the father he refuses to answer his phone and allow my partner to speak to her daughter, is there anything that can be done to get round this or does she just have to put up with it? the father has took it upon himself to stop ringing his daughter during the week to justify his actions...

Any advice please...

How old is Dd?

hi rosie she's 4 and has no idea this is happening?

No expert on this Ian, sure someone will come along soon that can help more, but do you have any concerns about the care Dad is giving her? are there any other issues?

Think its a bit unfair that he will not answer phone, but if it's their time together, and there are no other problems I can't see that this is a problem.

Is Dd happy when she returns home or do you both have cause for concern?

The main reason she wants to ring her is shes travelling almost 2 hours to his house and wants to know if they got there safely, he seems to be giving her good care but the phone call thing is the tip of a very large iceberg, the poor girl has basically been brainwashed by him and she seems quite obssessed and enthralled by him to the point of her dad is god and can do no wrong...

Then I agree a phone call just to say "we are home" would not be wrong. Hope someone comes along with some advice for you soon

i think it is natural for a four year old to think dad (or mum) is god and can do no wrong .

not sure if seeing it as brainwashing is right way to think...if she loves her dad adn enjoys her time with him -then great!

the not phoning is annoying i agree....

asking for text to say "we arrived" does not sound unreasonable- however sometimes is jsut a case of 2no news is good news" and no phone calls mean no incidents/accidents....