I am seeking legal advice obviously but have had a shitty letter land on the mat this morning which has really upset me.
Background is when I was young and naive and backpacking, met an Australian we had a baby (he begged me to abort her). When she was born I contacted him to let him know and invite him to see her, he demanded DNA testing, which I paid for.
I simply had no money to afford to stay in Australia with a newborn so came home. Once back in the UK we set up a private arrangement that he would pay £50 a week into an account for her.
I even offered to pay for him to come and visit the UK to see her, he declined and has not sent so much as a Christmas card since.
Fast forward 10 years I receive a letter out of the blue from the Australian CSA telling me he now earns over £200,000 a year and would I like them to review the maintenance payments, well yes I would.
His letter today basically tells me he will fight the decision in court and if we end up in court he will seek custody of a child he has never laid eyes on.
Now I am actually a bit happy about that because she wants to see him, I want her to see him but he only wants to see her if it's going to cost him more than £200 a month ??
How on earth can it work under those circumstances.
All experiences/thoughts very welcome :)