ExH used to see DCs on a Sunday as it suited both of us.
A few months ago I was offered a job which required me to work on Saturdays. I asked DH if he would be OK with having the DCs on a Saturday instead and he said that would be 'absolutely fine' but on rare occassions he may have to work on Saturday mornings and therefore couldn't have them then. We both agreed it would be fine for me to take the job as I could arrange alternative childcare or possibly take the DCs to work with me on the rare occassions he worked.
What transpired was he took DCs as promised on the first Saturday but since then has mainly either not had them at all or said he could only see them on the Sunday due to other commitments (work and leisure plans). DCs aren't happy being with the weekend childminder and end up coming to work with me.
With the DCs back at school it now means if he only sees them on the Sunday then I won't get any lenghty quality time with the DCs as the rest of the time they will be at school. I find myself partly hoping he wont see them that weekend so DCs and I can go out for the day together.
Can I tell him that he either sees them on the Saturday or not at all? If this is legal, how would I go about enforcing it?After all, he agreed that it would be fine to change the day in the first place. He messes us about all the time, he says saturday is fine then at the last minute changes it to the sunday or again at the last minute says he cant see them that weekend at all.