I moved away from my previous home due to my ex living in same town and his lifestyle choices and friends was mpacting on the children ,Things thrown at house , dog pooh smeared on door and dc being spat at in the street when out with him or with me.Xh also lived and slept with a16yo ok not illegal but still made very tough life for my dc as you can imagine in small town
xh had pretty much open access as felt was best for dc used see them week and at in the week .Though when he took ds3 out he always wanted either ds2 or ds1 there which are sons from my previous realtionship .Due to not coping with ds3 sn and having dd who is 7
I kept giving details of signing courses but he would never attend even though told him they were heavily subsided so not much to pay .
Well I moved as impact was to great on dc.We are settled about 45mins away so not hrs and hrs and i contacted him to arrange contact and first wa stalking ok ,then he statrted mentioing going to solictor as i said at first would rather just him and dc meet .Would not give him my current address as his now Gf as made it clear does not like me and there are issues around her familys behaviour GBh recored , Abh and drugs etc .Though offered him my mums address for mail and my mobile which he has my mobile
Next time I called as he had failed to call so called him to try and work out when he would like to see the dc .His current gf wa sin background screaming abuse of .So told him was not acceptable and to contact me when he could talk.
he then contacted me through Fc to tell me not to contact him again and he was going to a solictor
Then nothing for a month though has my mobile no attempt to call .We then got in yesterday find a solictors letter on mat saying he wants access to the children without anyone else there and solictor can not see any rerason he should not diclose my address to myXh
Now im happy for him to see the dc np at all but my concern is ds3 who is 5 does not talk he uses makton and is physically and metally disabled functions mentslly at around 3yo and has epilepsy .
Xh refused training in signing when together, so obviously i am reluctant to let him see ds3 without me least being around in the background due to xh not being able to communicate or deal with a seizure or can i ask that he gets some training before having ds3 on his own.
Xh not wanting overnight he asking monthly .Though i offered him weekly
Where do i stand with regards my address and with him seeing ds3 without support