Financial support after divorce

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Hi All,

I hope you will be able to help. I divorced from EXH in 2003 and did not file for any financial assistance as I was desperate to have him out of my life and didnt want anything from him at the time. He agreed to pay for our son's fees etc etc. Fastforward 6 years and he is now messing around with maintenance. I get £200 a month from the CSA but I know for a fact that he has not disclosed to them his correct salary and also that he has a second house which he lets out. I have now decided to go to court to ask for more financial assistance as I have just about had enough of him and his untoward behaviour towards me. The only reason being that the money he pays monthly goes to his son and if he is lying about his income etc, bearing in mind that I did not ask him for a penny when we divorced then I really want to play him at his own game (if I still can and get every penny I am entitled to). Is this still possible and if so how would I go about filing it in court. There was no clean break order or something like that given by the judge

Thank you for reading

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I don't know about the court situation, but if it were me, I would ring the csa and tell them what you have said on here.

Then all being well he will have to provide up to date payslips etc and financial paperwork that backs up what you say - or what he is declaring etc.

Hopefully you will be able to get a more accurate payment then. Good luck.

Thanks Theyre

Go for it.

My ex tried to get a discount off the csa payments before he'd even paid a thing...

They make me sick.

how old is your son now?

Lucinda he is 11 now. Theyre, they are terrible aren't they. My exh makes my blood crawl

My son is 11 too. He's starting to question things more, and I have to be careful what I tell him.

I don't want him to be angry with his dad, however I don't want to be too economical with the truth either. I don't want to lie to him - he is old enough to handle some things. It's hard.

I know what you mean Theyre, my son went kicking and screaming to his dad's today as he clearly didnt want to go. I was in tears when he left and so was he but his dad insisted on picking him up (nothing I could do) to avoid contact. He is now old enough to be vocal but far too polite to say exactly how he feels to his dad. I am not economical with the truth at all, today he left me an explicit verbal message on my phone before he picked up my DS and I just let him listen to the message. He now knows exactly what his father is like and today he was just distraught at having to go. My DS's dad hasnt bothered to pick him up or call him since Christmas 09, can you believe it and then he expects to pick up where he left off with him. No wonder he was anxious about going there because he is really no longer used to going there. That has been the pattern for the past three years, no calls or anything for close to nine months then a random text to say I will pick up tomorrow. he makes me sick to my stomach. Oh yeah and don't forget how it's always our fault