Those who have had a two year and a three year gap

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Which had the most positives would you say I have ds4 and dd9months and I want dc3 but I am unsure whether to try for a similar gap of 3years or a smaller gap of 2years.

I found two years hideous. It's getting easier now but the first 9 months of it were horrific and pushed me over the edge. But then my second child didn't let me sleep for more than 20 minutes in 9 months, so I may be an extreme case.

Both my dc have been poor sleepers and had colic, also I kinda feel like ds had three years of being with me and dd should have the same. Then because of school they will all have about 3years of quality time and being the baby.

However funding would be better with a two year gap.

I had 3 in 3 years, 18 month age gaps, I love it, I think its a personal thing and sometimes babies can't be planned, they come along when they are ready x

i have 3 each with 2 years between them and its a great gap for us, i think for dc4 we will have to stretch the gap closer to 3 years for practical considerations but im not very keen. I think though it needs to be what works for you, if you think you could cope with 2yrs for practicality then its not a terrible gap in my eyes.

I've got three years between 1 and 2, and two years between 2 and 3. The three year gap was easier, and not just because I had fewer children. Ideally, I probably would have had a four year or more gap, to be honest.

I have 3ys between DD1 and DD2 and then 2yrs between DD2 and DD3

the bigger gap was easier - much easier, no buggy, different car seats, potty trained and a 3yr old who could be reasoned with rather than a 2yr old who was just all confused

poor DD2 got fitted in and not as much time getting to be the baby before DD3 arrived and although she was brilliant with it all it wasn't as easy tbh

3 years. By then they can count to ten (just about) which is very useful whenever you are tied up and they need something...

"Can you count to ten for mummy, and I'll be finished doing this..." [1, 2, 3, 5, no 4, 5, no I'll start again and get it right, 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 8, 7, 9...did I do a wrong one? 7, 8, 10!! Well, that's how I do it mummy, is that okay if I do it my way? Everyone can be different can't they mummy?]

Ears bleeding but feeding/nappy/bottles/whatever done!!

I like the three year gap myself, and have a few three-year gaps and one two-year gap. I regret not having all that time with the one who was just 2 when the next baby arrived.

I have a 2 year gap and a 3 year gap. I'd say the 2 year gap was easier, but that is because both DC were good sleepers (DS2 slept through from 7 weeks). DS1 stopped having his usual 2 hour nap during the day a week before ds2 arrived though, so was a bit tough in that respect.

With DS3 (5 and 3 year gap), both DS1+2 were at school/nursery so had a little time by ourselves and could sleep then.

With both age gaps though the older sibling/s helped with putting nappies in bins/getting wipes/bibs and stuff, which was great.

oh and as shameful as it seems to consider it, they have some funding when they turn 3 so can get to nursery/playgroup etc for a wee while

I was pregnant with DC4 but lost him a few weeks ago - I was panicking that by Oct I was going to have 3DCs all below school age and DD1 in P3. if/when we try again, DD3 will have her funding in place so it would be easier iyswim?

3 years here too

Ok thanks ladies It won't make that much difference to money, It was just we will do okay for money, mortgage paid, few treats but no holidays abroad designer clothes that sort of thing until I finish studying which I will do when dc3 goes back to school so will only make a year difference.

I think I will go three year gap it worked once .

YouCantTeuchThis I really like the count to ten may start using that.

dizzydixies I am really sorry to hear about your miscarriage.

verybusyspider I am aware it cant always be planned hence very well loved, big surprise ds. I have a feeling it wont be easy to get dc3 I caught really easily for my other two.

mathanxiety Think dp would grab some wire cutters if I suggested a few 3 year gaps . I would be willing though.

I think I would have been okay with a two year gap if that was what ds had had but I think like some of the posters I would feel like dd got a raw deal. So I guess I have a year more of having my figure

Thanks to anyone I have not mentioned