no5 but just no2 for me

[1son3girls]

So am I crazy? my son is 20 now and although I've always wanted a second, I was not lucky in love. Well, I married a couple years ago and still want a second BAD. When engaged, my fiance (now husband) teased all the time about another child. Now I've answered with Yes, he's gotten cold feet. He has 3 girls (19, 14 & 7) the 14yr old lives with us but thats it. My son is at college and so is his 19yr old. We're just 39 (yes, we had our older kids early) so it's not out of the question. We could adopt too! Thoughts? Is this just "dumb" as we're so close to being empty nest-ers? I'm terrified I'll regret never having my second once its too late.

No, not crazy but you need to think it through.
I'm thinking mainly about the expense. If you think it will be ok financially then why not? I was 39 when my last dc was born.

Thank you Elasticwoman, and finances will be great for another in about 6mo. The house will be ours free and clear, the credit cards are all under 5K so they'll be paid off around the same time. We've been working hard at the Dave Ramsey program since we got married.
So do you have a large gap in ages?
How did your family (parents & siblings) handle the news of having another at 39?
I ask because just today my mother (yes, on mothers day) made one of those comments starting with, "well, at your age..." and it didn't get better.

We all have babies late in our family. My mother was 38 when she had me.

My great grandfather was born in 1832.

I don't have a very big gap between nos 2 and 3. But some people disapproved of my having a 3rd, as if it's greedy having more than 2! Just jealous and I didn't let it bother me.

I had my 3rd son at 39 (8 mths ago) I'm 40 0n Saturday yikes and still as broody as ever. I'd love a fourth but finances would hold us back and dh is not so keen.
So i think I will content myself with my 3 healthy boys now.
At many of the bf groups and toddler groups i joined lots of people were in their mid thirties plus so what people thought/think isn't an issue really.
It would be a shame to be put off by other peoples opinions as they'd get used to the idea soon and you might regret not having another when it really is too late.
Its up to you though obviously

It might be worth considering that the chances of conceiving a child with Down's Syndrome increase with maternal age. After age 40 the increased risk is considerable - but you are still more likely to have a child without Down's than with.