Is going from two children to three harder/easier than one child to two?

[kimlouiseb]

I have heard some people say the jump from two to three is easier than the jump from one to two. Would you agree?

We have two boys aged 3 and 5 and are hoping to have a third at some point - probably once DS2 starts school.

Just wondering the above really - I know in terms of space it will be harder i.e we will need a bigger car and possibly a bigger house, but is it harder physically and emotionally? Bearing in mind that my sons will both be school age by the time we have a third.

Thanks

I got told that going from 2 to three was easy.

They lied.

We have found it really hard but couldn't be without our youngest.

I think the age gap is a factor too.

i found 2 to 3 much easier than 1 to 2

i think emotionally when going from 1 to 2 i found it quite difficult to disrupt that bond with my first child. i went through a LOT of "will i love this baby as much as I do ds1"
i found it very difficult not having so much time for him and having to split myself in half and worrying that i wasn't givin him enough

it didn't helkp of course that ds2 was a VERY high-needs baby and i spent an awful lot of the time trying to stop him crying/feeding him/holding him

going from 2 to 3 was easier because i'd already done it once before. adding another one to 2 existing children didn't seem so bad as adding one to my PFB lol
additionally ds3 has been far more laid-back and easier to live with than ds2 was, and his brothers both adore him which has helped

don't get me wrong, it's bloody hard work, and it seems like about double the workload than just having 2,but on the whole i have found it easier

oh and mine were 4 and a bit, and 19 months when number 3 camealong

cant say i found any of it easier!!
18months between ds1 and dd. dd hardly slept during the day and had really bad reflux so spent most of day in jammies and smelling faintly of baby puke! we also had a family friend die so my world pretty much caved in on me when she was born.
there is 22months between dd and ds2 and although he slept lots during the day, he didnt sleep much at night! and i got pneumonia and my ds1 had a really bad chest infection all when ds2 was 6weeks old. coupled with the fact that we had very few vistors to break the monotony up/help out that really wasnt a good experience either!
I do realise that i was just very unlucky, and i can honestly say that i would actually do it all again, even with all the things that happened-it just proved how resilient i actually am! and the gaps are actually really good as they all play nicely with each other (they also have some spectacular fights).

This thread is so helpful as I find myself wondering about 3 quite a bit. I found 1-2 relatively easy whilst on maternity leave but as soon as I went back to work during the second lockdown it was incredibly tough to juggle 2 around work (one of those 4 days a week which really meant working 5 days in 4 and all evenings) rather than 1 and the mum guilt & tiredness took its toll so I worry I would be compromising the little time i get during the week with my 2 sons by adding another to the mix. Maybe when DS1 is at school and older so could help with DS2 a bit... but I'm too afraid to take the leap as you can't go back!

1-2 was easy. That’s why we had number 3.

Number 3 nearly killed me. I love him to bits and he completes our family in a way it wasn’t before, but if I knew then what i know now I would have stopped at 2.

I found 0-1 easy, 1-2 tough and 2-3 easy.

I think a lot will frozen on ages. No. 1 was 22 months when no. 2 was born. When no. 3 was born he was 3.5 and no. 2 was 21 months.

I found going from 2-3 a doddle. So much so by the time my third was 14 weeks I found out o was pregnant again.
I think it really depends on the babies personality. We just got super lucky with number 3 he was just the most chilled baby ever and is still very chilled now as a 7 year old. At the time I was stupid enough to think it was my fabulous parenting skills, then number 4 arrived.......