To try or not to try..

[Workieticket]

...for no.3 - basically! We have a DS, 4 & DD, 14months. I think I've always hankered after 3 dc's, but pretty much straight after having dd, felt that my family was complete & looked forward to getting rid of all the baby stuff as & when dd grew out of it. However, baby stuff is all still in the loft as I can't bear to get rid of it!
DD had GBS not long after being born & we came v close to losing her. But thankfully she is here, larger than life & an absolute joy So should we just get on with our lives & be thankful for what we have?
I'm getting the 'two's enough' feeling from DH & would never want him to be badgered into having a 3rd. But would I regret not having that 3rd dc? Anyone else's views gladly received!

[UnrealisticExpectations]

kitkatqueen, fab post! Good luck with the baby and the degree - we deffo need more 'been there, done that - several times' midwives and HVs, I think!

[Workieticket]

NBM - Congratulations!!
How was the 3rd pregnancy? & what's it like coping with disturbed nights with 2 others to look after??

[kitkatqueen]

Thanks mmm and UE!

MMM I took it as a sign that I deserved all new maternity clothes with no3. I can honestly say that I was more relaxed and happy being pregnant with no3 than either 1 or 2, my body seemed to have finally got into the swing of being pregnant and I knew what to expect too, this time round I am so chilled about the baby, i am loving this pregnancy.

I had 3 under 4 when ds was born and I think the hardest bit was doing the school run when ds was 2 weeks old I was also running my friends 2 children at the time so each run I had 5 children under 5 in the car and invariably ds would want to be fed during the run.

My friend had 4 boys under 6 ( single parent too !!)and told me that the 3rd child learns patience. She was right and I learned not to stress, because he wouldn't break in half if he had to wait 5 mins.

My biggest worry at the mo is how ds is going to take the arrival of the new baby - I am still b/feeding him as he's only 15mnths, he is probably cows milk intolerant and he needs that closeness still. I am having to assume I'll be tandem feeding... Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!

[NBM]

Thanks for congrats

Workieticket

I have found all three pregnancies hard TBH. Towards the end I struggled with the schoolrun (felt like a whale)! Luckily my DH and lovley friends helped plus DD3 was a bit early!

I can't really answer your question about coping with the broken nights nd two other DC as my DH is on paternity leave and doing alot of the childcare/housework while I feed my baby and rest.

[Workieticket]

kitkatqueen - congrats on the pregnancy good luck with the degree!
How did DD's take to the arrival of DS? What was their relationship like before his arrival? I worry about this quite a bit as my 2 are v close & I'd be upset if we rocked the boat. Are you quite a chilled laid back mum? This is another worry as I've lost the plot on a number of occasions, but do think if I were a little more organised, I would cope a lot better (note to self...)