What are peoples views on more than 2 children?

[hollyboosmum]

What are peoples views on the thought that over 2 children is social unacceptable these days?
I have three children and would love a 4th but fear that people will judge me on my choices. My husband and i are educated people who support our family through working but wondering what other peoples views are on more than 2 children? Thanks

[gardeningmum05]

put the spade away astarte

[Astarte]

I have just recently had a baby....it's my only defence

[ForeverOptimistic]

I have one child and as I said in my first post I do not judge large families because I would have a large family if circumstances allowed me to. However I do get annoyed that people have come on here and slated one child families. My son is an only and he doesn't fit the sterotype at all.

Please fellow women just accept that all families are different and stop getting digs in at anyone who has a different set up to you. If we were all the same life would be dull dull dull!

[kentmumtj]

forever optmistic - i agree completly i think this post originally started as being more about what society thinks of people with large families which i thought was wrong as i truly belive that if children are bought up by loving parents whether they are a couple, step family or lone parent it makes no difference.
The subject esp the TV programme is mainly about slating large families i guess being as i have 4 i wanted to speak about the pros rather than the cons of a large family and how a smaller family can also have some negatives rather than all positives.

personally i would never judge anyone for how many children they have as long as they are loved and well cared for.

[elvislives]

Foreveroptimistic this thread is under larger families

[ForeverOptimistic]

Umm yes I know elvislives and I came on here to say that I thought having a large family should be celebrated. I didn't realise that I'm not allowed an opinion because I don't have a large family.

[no1putsbabyinthecorner]

I think large families are great. Both my parents re married and I have 3 more siblings as a result and 2 siblings from mum and dad. We all get on great. I have 2dcs, Have always dreamed of 4, but would settle for 3 maybe. Dh says no more, but I keep singing 3 is the magic number. He does not find this amuzing.
mmmm wonders why dh wont come near me......

[juuule]

elvislives not sure what point you are trying to make to foreveroptimistic about this being the larger families forum.

[elvislives]

Sorry didn't mean you aren't allowed an opinion but obviously you are going to get different responses from the one-child section than you would from larger families. I didn't notice anyone putting digs in about different set ups. I thought you'd posted from Active Convos and not realised (as I tend to do myself)

[Blarbie]

My Mum was an only child and was bullied at school. She thought if she had a lot of children "they'd always have a friend". I am one of 9. We all had lovely childhoods although we were a bit neglected in hindsight, but we were all top of the class, popular and looked clean and tidy - although I honestly went a full year without a bath at the age of about 7/8!! My Dad had a very low income and would've been better off on the dole, but he is proper working class - he works! Hand me downs, make do and mend and sensible (but dull) meals all around the table made it affordable, plus we all got jobs from an early age.
I am expecting my 2nd child and would love 3 or 4, but my partner reckons there are 2 of us, so more than 2 kids isn't right. In part I agree, no matter how socially responsible a family of 6 may be, eventually in our society the kids grow up, live in separate houses, with separate cars/washing machines, cheese graters etc which are all drains on finite resources.
That said, I'd still love 3 or 4!

[misschatterbox]

I have generally have plenty of self control and think it is a couple's own choice as to how many children they have. Provided they are loved and well cared for what is the problem. I would hate to be so prejudiced against other cultures and people simply because they have more than 2 children. My husband and I are both from families with three children and we decided from the start to have three. We will lose all self control and try for our third at the end of this year.