More children dilemma

[mollymarthawilf]

I have two children. A girl who is 3 3/4 and a boy who is 10 months. I think I would like more but my husband says a resounding no!
I never felt like this after my first child, in hindsight I think I was depressed. But I did after my son was born despite having a more complicated birth.
Do I just like the idea of another baby, but would not go through with it in reality? Or am I broody? I feel sad at the thought that this is it!
Both pregnancies were straightforward, obviously it does not mean another would be. Twins do run in the family. I am only 36 so there is still time too.
Anyone else had this dilemma??

Why does your hubby say a big NO??
My DH said no after ds was born - but that was because of me having PND very badly. But 5-6 years later I'm 5 months preg with no 2.
To be honest, I had waited and waited for him to change his mind, but got pretty pissed off that his decisions were ruling my life and preventing me from having what I wanted also. I tried to respect and understand his fears for as long as I dared!! I got the coil removed in Jan 07 and he nearly hit the roof! So I went on the pill...for a few months, then I 'forgot' occassionally to take them (sometimes I flushed them down the loo - after all it's not 100%!!) I got preg last Feb 08, finding out about it 2 weeks after my FIL died. DH was so happy about it, but unfortunately I MC at 9 weeks. Now we're over half way with this one and he is pleased about it.

However, I am not saying to 'accidently on purpose' get preg behind your DH's back. If he has reasons for not - eg financial, already has one of each, his own depression, etc then you may have to wait. You do still have time. I'm 39 (40 in March) - you still have a few years.

I never had this dilemma...my first was born after taking the fertility drug CLOMID;my second was born the day before my first's first birthday because I didn't think it was possible for me to get pregnant naturally;my third was born because I didn't think I was so lucky to hit the jackpot 3 times in such a short space of time....HENCE...may 1998,may 1999,may 2000....and all their birthdays are in the same week!!!!!absolutely no regrets....and I spent my first few years with noone cos hubbie was in Saudi!

I feel the same after 2 (ds2 15 months). My DH said a big NO but has recently changed his mind....he said he didnt want me to be sad about not having another.

We are starting trying this month!!

So dont give up with your DH, although dont nag eihter i guess.

How NO is your DH?

it is hard to balance what he wants and what you want. enjoy your baby boy for now. i agree with thehairybabysmum too - don't give up on your dh, but nagging isn't a good way to go.

I think that my hubbie is quite sure about no. He has talked about have 'the chop'.

That said it is more to do with practical reasons and I don't think that he is really really against the idea of more children per se. But the difficulty of looking after them the first year, sleep deprivation etc.

He is a nice guy and certainly would not nag etc or 'accidently' do it either.

He says he does not want to 'keep rewinding the clock'. Which I do understand.

Just seems so final.

my dh said no more after no.2 and even went to book in for the snip..luckily gp told him he had to wait a year and we now have ds 5,dd1 3,and dd2 2 and am 17wks with no.4

dont give up hope you never know what might happen..i just explained to dh how I felt and that there must have been a compromise.